Salam semua, lama gua tak post blog ni. Ada la dekat setahun gitu katakan, bersawang dah blog gua. So, cerita baru pasal gua. Gua dah tak single sejak dari bulan February 2013 dan ianya sangat awesome la jugak. Lame gua menyingle, sekarang dah tak dah.
So kita skip ke main topic gua, malas nak bercerita jiwang-jiwang pasal gua. Seperkara gua tak faham pasal sesetengah manusia ni, lagi-lagi perempuan yang jenis pakai tudung dan rasa diri dia betul sokmo. Pelik jugak, kalau dah jenis tunjuk kuat agama ni takkan dorang tak tahu "memfitnah itu lebih berdosa dari membunuh". Gua ngaku gua takde la baik mane pon cume yang peliknye gua tak pernah kacau hidup MEREKA ni apesal dorang busy body sibok hal gua, pergi mampos la gua nak buat ape sekali pon, hidup gua.
Sunday, June 23, 2013
Sunday, September 23, 2012
Izinkan saya berzina dengan anak pak cik
Gadis : Masuk lah dulu, jumpa dengan ayah saya
Teruna : Boleh ke?
Gadis : Masuk je lah, saya nak siap
Menyusup masuk si teruna melalui pintu utama. Pintu yang siap terbuka mengaluka-alukan kedatangan si Teruna.
Teruna : Assalamualaikum.
Bapa G : Waalaikumusalam.
Melihat pada lantangnya suara bapa si gadis, terus si teruna kaku membatu. Lantas si gadis menarik tangan si teruna menyedarkan dari lamunan itu.
Gadis : Mari, duduk kat kerusi
Teruna : eh.
Setelah tangan dihulur dan salam bertaut, duduklah si teruna di kerusi hampir menghadap bapa si gadis. Hanya surat khabar yang menjadi tabir antara mereka.
Bapa G : nak jalan kemana hari ni?
Teruna : Bandar je cik, dia nak carik barang katanya. Barang apa tak tau lah saya
Bapa G : oh..
Teruna : ??
Hampir 5 minit senyap tanpa suara. Dan ibu si gadis keluar dari tabir ruang utama dan ruang belakang membawa air serta biskut kering. Si teruna senyum kelat.
Ibu G : minum la ni sikit. Kamu sudah sarapan?
Teruna : ehh. Sudah cik. Terima kasih.
Ibu G : kamu malu-malu pula dengan kami.
Teruna : segan cik. Hehe
Bapa G : bila kamu nak hantar rombongan?
Ibu G : eh. Apa ayahnya ni?
Teruna : ehh. Duit takde lagi. Hehe
Bapa G : kamu bawa anak kami kehulu-kehilir. Apa orang kata nanti
Teruna : (eh. Malu ngan orang ke malu ngan Allah, lagi takut orang kata dari Allah yang menghukum) Kami naik kereta je cik, tak de la nampak berkepit sangat. Boleh saya tanya cik sikit
Bapa G : boleh takda masalah
Teruna : pakcik ngan makcik nak letak wang hantaran berapa ye?
Bapa G : kalau boleh 20 ribu
Ibu G : ehh. Tak kisah la, tapi kalau boleh acik nak lebih tinggi sikit dari orang sebelah ni
Teruna : Berapa tu cik?
Ibu G : dalam 25 ribu ke atas dan dulang 25 keatas pihak lelaki
Teruna : (amboi, ko melantak dulang ke ape? Wuhaa.. 25 ribu. Mana nak dapat, aduh) Tingginya acik, tak boleh rendah lagi ke?
Bapa G : itu nasib kamu la, kamu yang nak kat anak kami. Lagipun dialah satu-satunya anak perempuan kami, kene lah market sikit. Nak grand-grand camtu.
Si teruna hampir hilang akal apabila disebutkan harga si gadis itu. Dan si teruna cuba berbincang untuk merendahkan harga si gadis.
Teruna : nak Tanya lagi, kenapa anak acik tak pakai tudung?
Bapa G : itu kenalah Tanya maknya
Teruna : (ehh. Boleh pas-pas pulak dah)
Ibu G : ehh. Awak lah. Apa pulak saya. Awak yang sepatutnya didik anak
Bapa G : saya kan kerja. Mana ada masa
Teruna : (pulak dah, gaduh nanti) Ehh-ehh. Makcik pakcik. Kita lupakan dulu soalan tadi sebab kalau ikut makcik pun tak tutup kepala jugak. Maksudnya lebih kurang jugaklah. Nak Tanya lagi, anak acik pandai masak?
Bapa G : hmm.. haram. Tau-tau bangun tido pukul 12 lebih, bukan bangun pagi dah tu. Bangun tengahari. Terus makan tengahari.
Ibu G : apa la ayahnya, orang ni nak buat anak kita bini, dia cerita buruk-buruk pulak.
Bapa G : maknya pun sama suka bangun lambat juga.
Ibu G : abahnya!
Teruna : (kah kah kah.. bengong. Camtu pun nak cerita) Ehh.. acik sekarang saya da tau. Okeh. Soalan lagi. Boleh tak dia baca quran?
Ibu G : boleh sikit-sikit kot
Teruna : kali terakhir bila?
Ibu G : err. Darjah 1 agaknya.
Teruna : hmm.
Ibu G : kenapa?
Teruna : takda apa makcik. Soalan cepumas. Dia solat tak?
Bapa G : apa motif kamu Tanya semua ni. Dia kan selalu ikut kamu. Kamu tau la.
Teruna : kalau kat luar saya ajak dia solat, dia cakap datang bulan. Hari-hari datang bulan. Dia tau solat atau tak?
Hampir terkedu si bapa dan si ibu. Dan pada raut wajah mereka berdua terdapat tanda-tanda kemerah-merahan menahan amarah.
Teruna : boleh saya sambung lagi. Dia tak reti masak, tak reti solat, tak reti mengaji, tak reti nak tutup aurat sebelum dia jadi bini saya lagi. Dosa-dosa dia terang-terang pegi kat makcik ngan pakcik. Lagipun tak berbaloi harga 25 ribu untuk dia. Lain lah dia ni hafizah, 30 juzuk dalam kepala, bertutup litup habis dari bawah sampai ke atas dan tau jaga batas, haa.. itu barulah berbaloi 100 ribu pun saya sanggup bayar. Tapi orang macam tu kalau kahwin mereka memilih untuk serendah-rendah mahar. Sebab sebaik-baik perkahwinan adalah serendah-rendah mahar. Mata bapa si gadis direnung tajam oleh mata ibu si gadis. Keduanya senyap tanpa suara. Ketiga mereka menundukkan kepala. Lumrah adat untuk menjadikan anak perempuan untuk dijadikan objek pemuas nafsu hati menunjukkan kekayaan serta bermegah-megah dengan apa yang ada. Terutamanya pada majlis perkahwinan. Adat mengatasi agama. Dibiarkan anak perempuan dihias dan dibuat pertunjukkan di khalayak ramai. Sedang pada waktu itu akad telah dilafaz si suami, dan segala dosa anak perempuan sudah mula ditanggung oleh si suami. Amatlah rugi. Mahar berpuluh ribu dibayar pada isteri dan sepatutnya hanya si suami seorang yang berhak melihat, tetapi pada hari pertama perkahwinan iaitu semasa persandingan sahaja berpuluh ribu mata yang melihat si isteri. Seolah-olah si suami membayar mahar untuk mereka sekali.
Bapa G : tapi kan. Pakcik nak anak pakcik rasa sekali. Benda seperti tu kan sekali seumur hidup.
Teruna : pakcik nak anak pakcik rasa ke pakcik yang rasa grand?
Ibu G : tentulah kami berdua pun turut gembira.
Teruna : yeke? Saya sambung lagi ya. Acik, saya bukan apa. Sekarang dosa anak pakcik, pakcik yang tanggung. esok lusa lepas akad nikah terus dosa dia saya yang tanggung. pastu pakcik nak buat bersanding pulak. Setiap mata yang memandang saya akan dapat dosa. Lagilah saya berdosa sangat-sangat. Ibu si gadis segera mengambil langkah mudah dengan menarik diri daripada perbualan itu. Si ibu tahu, si teruna bercakap menggunakan fakta islam. Dan tidak mungkin ibu si gadis dapat melawan kata si teruna itu.
Bapa G : kau memandai pulak nak cakap agama ngan kami.
Teruna : ehh. Sory pakcik. Bukan saya nak cakap pasal agama. Tapi itulah hakikat sebenar. Kita terlalu pandang pada adat sampai lupa agama.
Bapa G : camni lah. Kamu sediakan 25 ribu, ngan 31 dulang. Kalau takde, kamu tak boleh kahwin ngan anak aku!
Teruna : lama lagilah camtu. Dalam umur saya 30 lebih, baru dapat masuk meminang. Kalau camtu pakcik, ‘izinkan saya berzina ngan anak pakcik’?
Bapa G : hoi! Kau dah melampau, ko baik-baik sikit cakap tu. Jangan main sedap mulut je.
Teruna : dengar dulu penjelasan saya pakcik. Pakcik tau tak apa sebab orang berzina dan banyak anak luar nikah? Sebab benda nil ah pakcik. Selalu ibu bapa perempuan yang meletakkan berpuluh ribu ringgit sampai pihak lelaki terpaksa menangguh hasrat untuk berkahwin. Tetapi cinta dan nafsu kalau tidak diiringkan dengan betul, syaitan yang jadi pihak ketiga untuk menyesatkan manusia. Akhirnya mereka mengambil jalan pintas memuaskan nafsu serakah dengan berzina. Mula-mula memang ringan-ringan dahulu pakcik, pegang-pegang tangan, peluk-peluk, pegang pinggul, dan sebagainya. Tapi lama-lama jadi berat-berat. Yang berat-berat tu pakcik sendiri pun boleh bayangkan.
Bapa G : apa kaitan kamu nak berzina pula
Teruna : yalah. Dah pakcik tak bagi kami kahwin sekarang, biar ada duit dulu baru boleh kahwin. kami nak lepaskan nafsu camna pakcik? Tiap hari saya tengok dia, dia tengok saya. Susah pakcik. Nafsu. Sebab tu saya dengan rendah hati minta izin pada pakcik untuk berzina ngan anak pakcik. Apa yang penting pakcik tahu yang saya dan dia nak berzina. Sebab rata-rata orang yang berzina ni ibu bapa tak tau. Nampak je biasa-biasa sedangkan da berzina. Err.. berzina bukan sahaja yang ehem-ehem je. Ada yang zina-zina ringan. Tapi sebab ringan tu yang akan jadi berat.
Bapa G : hmm. Kamu ni peliklah. Nasib baik pakcik cool je. Kalau orang lain, da lama angkat parang. Tapi kalau takde duit, camna kamu nak bagi dia makan
Teruna : hehe. Pakcik. Pakcik lupakah dengan apa yang telah Allah bagitau.
“Dan kahwinkanlah orang-orang bujang (lelaki dan perempuan) dari kalangan kamu, dan orang-orang yang soleh dari hamba-hamba kamu, lelaki dan perempuan. Jika mereka miskin, Allah akan memberikan kekayaan kepada mereka dari limpah kurniaNya kerana Allah Maha Luas (rahmatNya dan limpah kurniaNya), lagi Maha Mengetahui.” (an Nur 32). Takkan la kita tak yakin dengan apa yang Allah janjikan. Lagipun pakcik, kalau makan dan minum tu insyaAllah, berdaya lagi untuk saya beri pada dia. Tempat tinggal tu kita boleh bincang lagi. Kalau benda ni boleh menghalang kami dari melakukan perkara dosa dan sia-sia. Baiklah disegerakan. Pakcik pun tak mau perkara-perkara tak elok kan. Senyap tanpa kata bapa si gadis, merenung kata-kata si teruna. Segera bapa si gadis memikirkan cara untuk mematahkan kata-kata si teruna. Dan bapa si gadis mendapat akal.
Bapa G : kamu tau la zaman sekarang ni. Kalau ikut cara kamu tu. Mungkin kamu tak suka dengan persandingan, pakcik boleh terima. Tapi kamu kena la ambil kira apa orang lain yang akan kata. Tau-tau orang akan mengata anak aku kena tangkap basah dan kena nikah paksa dengan kamu. Mana nak letak muka ni.
Teruna : bagus juga cadangan pakcik tu. Kena tangkap basah 2 ribu je denda. Kat Malaysia takde hudud, dan kalau untung. Boleh nikah masa tu jugak. Bagus-bagus.
Bapa G : serius lah sikit.
Teruna : betul dah tu pakcik. Hehe. Tapi pakcik, saya tak kata pun takde walimatul urus. Sedang walimatul urus itu perlu untuk hebahkan yang anak-anak dah kahwin. itu cara islam. Ok. Tapi yang tak oknya, bersanding tu ha. Kesian saya pakcik, saya seorang bayar mahar untuk anak pakcik, orang lain pun dapat tengok. Siap kalau berhias secara berlebihan dan orang lain yang lihat menaikkan nafsu syahwat mereka, saya yang berdosa pakcik. Saya yang tanggung dosa dia. insyaAllah pakcik. Kita bukan nak buat apa pakcik. Syariat memang camtu. Maha baiknya Allah sebab jaga kita selama ini, tapi benda remeh-temeh camni pun kita masih pandang ringan dan kita tak menjaga apa yang telah Allah janjikan. Susah lah camtu pakcik.,Sory lah pakcik kalau ada kata saya yang membuat pakcik kurang senang ngan saya. Segala-galanya kita serah pada Allah, kita merancang je. Azan zohor berkumandang, jaraknya tidak sampai 10 dari surau berdekatan rumah si gadis. Si teruna memohon untuk ke surau dan mengajak bapa si gadis untuk pergi bersama. Namun ajakan ditolak dengan lembut. Lantas memberi salam dan memohon untuk keluar. Di birai tingkap bapa si gadis melihat si teruna mengeluarkan kopiah dari poketnya dan segera di pakainya. Masuk ke dalam kereta dan hilang dari penglihatan bapa si gadis tadi. Sedang si gadis yang sedari tadi berdiri di balik tirai bersama ibunya menitiskan air mata mendengar luahan kata-kata si teruna terhadap ayahnya. Tudung pemberian si teruna sebagai hadiah pada hari jadinya yang lepas digenggam erat. Ibu si gadis juga menitiskan air mata melihat pada kelakuan anaknya. Segera ibu dan si gadis ke ruang tamu menghadap ayahnya.
Ibu G : apa yang budak tu kata betul. Kita ni tak beratkan pada agama selama ni. Kita sambil lewa abahnya.
Bapa G : hmm.. ntahlah, tak tahulah saya. Keras betul budak tu kata tadi. Satu-satu kena. Dia pesan tadi, suruh bersiap, lepas zohor dia amik kamu.
Gadis : takde mood nak pegi la ayah. Ntah,,
Si gadis terus mencapai telefon bimbitnya dan menaip mesej.
Si teruna yang selesai mengambil wuduk tersenyum apabila membaca mesej yang baru sahaja diterima daripada si gadis
“andai Allah telah memilih dirimu untukku,
aku redha dan akan terus bersama mu,
aku juga akan terus pada agama yang ada padamu.” “ : )”
“petang ni takde mood nak keluar, Sory.
Minggu depan ayah suruh hantar rombongan.
Teruna : Boleh ke?
Gadis : Masuk je lah, saya nak siap
Menyusup masuk si teruna melalui pintu utama. Pintu yang siap terbuka mengaluka-alukan kedatangan si Teruna.
Teruna : Assalamualaikum.
Bapa G : Waalaikumusalam.
Melihat pada lantangnya suara bapa si gadis, terus si teruna kaku membatu. Lantas si gadis menarik tangan si teruna menyedarkan dari lamunan itu.
Gadis : Mari, duduk kat kerusi
Teruna : eh.
Setelah tangan dihulur dan salam bertaut, duduklah si teruna di kerusi hampir menghadap bapa si gadis. Hanya surat khabar yang menjadi tabir antara mereka.
Bapa G : nak jalan kemana hari ni?
Teruna : Bandar je cik, dia nak carik barang katanya. Barang apa tak tau lah saya
Bapa G : oh..
Teruna : ??
Hampir 5 minit senyap tanpa suara. Dan ibu si gadis keluar dari tabir ruang utama dan ruang belakang membawa air serta biskut kering. Si teruna senyum kelat.
Ibu G : minum la ni sikit. Kamu sudah sarapan?
Teruna : ehh. Sudah cik. Terima kasih.
Ibu G : kamu malu-malu pula dengan kami.
Teruna : segan cik. Hehe
Bapa G : bila kamu nak hantar rombongan?
Ibu G : eh. Apa ayahnya ni?
Teruna : ehh. Duit takde lagi. Hehe
Bapa G : kamu bawa anak kami kehulu-kehilir. Apa orang kata nanti
Teruna : (eh. Malu ngan orang ke malu ngan Allah, lagi takut orang kata dari Allah yang menghukum) Kami naik kereta je cik, tak de la nampak berkepit sangat. Boleh saya tanya cik sikit
Bapa G : boleh takda masalah
Teruna : pakcik ngan makcik nak letak wang hantaran berapa ye?
Bapa G : kalau boleh 20 ribu
Ibu G : ehh. Tak kisah la, tapi kalau boleh acik nak lebih tinggi sikit dari orang sebelah ni
Teruna : Berapa tu cik?
Ibu G : dalam 25 ribu ke atas dan dulang 25 keatas pihak lelaki
Teruna : (amboi, ko melantak dulang ke ape? Wuhaa.. 25 ribu. Mana nak dapat, aduh) Tingginya acik, tak boleh rendah lagi ke?
Bapa G : itu nasib kamu la, kamu yang nak kat anak kami. Lagipun dialah satu-satunya anak perempuan kami, kene lah market sikit. Nak grand-grand camtu.
Si teruna hampir hilang akal apabila disebutkan harga si gadis itu. Dan si teruna cuba berbincang untuk merendahkan harga si gadis.
Teruna : nak Tanya lagi, kenapa anak acik tak pakai tudung?
Bapa G : itu kenalah Tanya maknya
Teruna : (ehh. Boleh pas-pas pulak dah)
Ibu G : ehh. Awak lah. Apa pulak saya. Awak yang sepatutnya didik anak
Bapa G : saya kan kerja. Mana ada masa
Teruna : (pulak dah, gaduh nanti) Ehh-ehh. Makcik pakcik. Kita lupakan dulu soalan tadi sebab kalau ikut makcik pun tak tutup kepala jugak. Maksudnya lebih kurang jugaklah. Nak Tanya lagi, anak acik pandai masak?
Bapa G : hmm.. haram. Tau-tau bangun tido pukul 12 lebih, bukan bangun pagi dah tu. Bangun tengahari. Terus makan tengahari.
Ibu G : apa la ayahnya, orang ni nak buat anak kita bini, dia cerita buruk-buruk pulak.
Bapa G : maknya pun sama suka bangun lambat juga.
Ibu G : abahnya!
Teruna : (kah kah kah.. bengong. Camtu pun nak cerita) Ehh.. acik sekarang saya da tau. Okeh. Soalan lagi. Boleh tak dia baca quran?
Ibu G : boleh sikit-sikit kot
Teruna : kali terakhir bila?
Ibu G : err. Darjah 1 agaknya.
Teruna : hmm.
Ibu G : kenapa?
Teruna : takda apa makcik. Soalan cepumas. Dia solat tak?
Bapa G : apa motif kamu Tanya semua ni. Dia kan selalu ikut kamu. Kamu tau la.
Teruna : kalau kat luar saya ajak dia solat, dia cakap datang bulan. Hari-hari datang bulan. Dia tau solat atau tak?
Hampir terkedu si bapa dan si ibu. Dan pada raut wajah mereka berdua terdapat tanda-tanda kemerah-merahan menahan amarah.
Teruna : boleh saya sambung lagi. Dia tak reti masak, tak reti solat, tak reti mengaji, tak reti nak tutup aurat sebelum dia jadi bini saya lagi. Dosa-dosa dia terang-terang pegi kat makcik ngan pakcik. Lagipun tak berbaloi harga 25 ribu untuk dia. Lain lah dia ni hafizah, 30 juzuk dalam kepala, bertutup litup habis dari bawah sampai ke atas dan tau jaga batas, haa.. itu barulah berbaloi 100 ribu pun saya sanggup bayar. Tapi orang macam tu kalau kahwin mereka memilih untuk serendah-rendah mahar. Sebab sebaik-baik perkahwinan adalah serendah-rendah mahar. Mata bapa si gadis direnung tajam oleh mata ibu si gadis. Keduanya senyap tanpa suara. Ketiga mereka menundukkan kepala. Lumrah adat untuk menjadikan anak perempuan untuk dijadikan objek pemuas nafsu hati menunjukkan kekayaan serta bermegah-megah dengan apa yang ada. Terutamanya pada majlis perkahwinan. Adat mengatasi agama. Dibiarkan anak perempuan dihias dan dibuat pertunjukkan di khalayak ramai. Sedang pada waktu itu akad telah dilafaz si suami, dan segala dosa anak perempuan sudah mula ditanggung oleh si suami. Amatlah rugi. Mahar berpuluh ribu dibayar pada isteri dan sepatutnya hanya si suami seorang yang berhak melihat, tetapi pada hari pertama perkahwinan iaitu semasa persandingan sahaja berpuluh ribu mata yang melihat si isteri. Seolah-olah si suami membayar mahar untuk mereka sekali.
Bapa G : tapi kan. Pakcik nak anak pakcik rasa sekali. Benda seperti tu kan sekali seumur hidup.
Teruna : pakcik nak anak pakcik rasa ke pakcik yang rasa grand?
Ibu G : tentulah kami berdua pun turut gembira.
Teruna : yeke? Saya sambung lagi ya. Acik, saya bukan apa. Sekarang dosa anak pakcik, pakcik yang tanggung. esok lusa lepas akad nikah terus dosa dia saya yang tanggung. pastu pakcik nak buat bersanding pulak. Setiap mata yang memandang saya akan dapat dosa. Lagilah saya berdosa sangat-sangat. Ibu si gadis segera mengambil langkah mudah dengan menarik diri daripada perbualan itu. Si ibu tahu, si teruna bercakap menggunakan fakta islam. Dan tidak mungkin ibu si gadis dapat melawan kata si teruna itu.
Bapa G : kau memandai pulak nak cakap agama ngan kami.
Teruna : ehh. Sory pakcik. Bukan saya nak cakap pasal agama. Tapi itulah hakikat sebenar. Kita terlalu pandang pada adat sampai lupa agama.
Bapa G : camni lah. Kamu sediakan 25 ribu, ngan 31 dulang. Kalau takde, kamu tak boleh kahwin ngan anak aku!
Teruna : lama lagilah camtu. Dalam umur saya 30 lebih, baru dapat masuk meminang. Kalau camtu pakcik, ‘izinkan saya berzina ngan anak pakcik’?
Bapa G : hoi! Kau dah melampau, ko baik-baik sikit cakap tu. Jangan main sedap mulut je.
Teruna : dengar dulu penjelasan saya pakcik. Pakcik tau tak apa sebab orang berzina dan banyak anak luar nikah? Sebab benda nil ah pakcik. Selalu ibu bapa perempuan yang meletakkan berpuluh ribu ringgit sampai pihak lelaki terpaksa menangguh hasrat untuk berkahwin. Tetapi cinta dan nafsu kalau tidak diiringkan dengan betul, syaitan yang jadi pihak ketiga untuk menyesatkan manusia. Akhirnya mereka mengambil jalan pintas memuaskan nafsu serakah dengan berzina. Mula-mula memang ringan-ringan dahulu pakcik, pegang-pegang tangan, peluk-peluk, pegang pinggul, dan sebagainya. Tapi lama-lama jadi berat-berat. Yang berat-berat tu pakcik sendiri pun boleh bayangkan.
Bapa G : apa kaitan kamu nak berzina pula
Teruna : yalah. Dah pakcik tak bagi kami kahwin sekarang, biar ada duit dulu baru boleh kahwin. kami nak lepaskan nafsu camna pakcik? Tiap hari saya tengok dia, dia tengok saya. Susah pakcik. Nafsu. Sebab tu saya dengan rendah hati minta izin pada pakcik untuk berzina ngan anak pakcik. Apa yang penting pakcik tahu yang saya dan dia nak berzina. Sebab rata-rata orang yang berzina ni ibu bapa tak tau. Nampak je biasa-biasa sedangkan da berzina. Err.. berzina bukan sahaja yang ehem-ehem je. Ada yang zina-zina ringan. Tapi sebab ringan tu yang akan jadi berat.
Bapa G : hmm. Kamu ni peliklah. Nasib baik pakcik cool je. Kalau orang lain, da lama angkat parang. Tapi kalau takde duit, camna kamu nak bagi dia makan
Teruna : hehe. Pakcik. Pakcik lupakah dengan apa yang telah Allah bagitau.
“Dan kahwinkanlah orang-orang bujang (lelaki dan perempuan) dari kalangan kamu, dan orang-orang yang soleh dari hamba-hamba kamu, lelaki dan perempuan. Jika mereka miskin, Allah akan memberikan kekayaan kepada mereka dari limpah kurniaNya kerana Allah Maha Luas (rahmatNya dan limpah kurniaNya), lagi Maha Mengetahui.” (an Nur 32). Takkan la kita tak yakin dengan apa yang Allah janjikan. Lagipun pakcik, kalau makan dan minum tu insyaAllah, berdaya lagi untuk saya beri pada dia. Tempat tinggal tu kita boleh bincang lagi. Kalau benda ni boleh menghalang kami dari melakukan perkara dosa dan sia-sia. Baiklah disegerakan. Pakcik pun tak mau perkara-perkara tak elok kan. Senyap tanpa kata bapa si gadis, merenung kata-kata si teruna. Segera bapa si gadis memikirkan cara untuk mematahkan kata-kata si teruna. Dan bapa si gadis mendapat akal.
Bapa G : kamu tau la zaman sekarang ni. Kalau ikut cara kamu tu. Mungkin kamu tak suka dengan persandingan, pakcik boleh terima. Tapi kamu kena la ambil kira apa orang lain yang akan kata. Tau-tau orang akan mengata anak aku kena tangkap basah dan kena nikah paksa dengan kamu. Mana nak letak muka ni.
Teruna : bagus juga cadangan pakcik tu. Kena tangkap basah 2 ribu je denda. Kat Malaysia takde hudud, dan kalau untung. Boleh nikah masa tu jugak. Bagus-bagus.
Bapa G : serius lah sikit.
Teruna : betul dah tu pakcik. Hehe. Tapi pakcik, saya tak kata pun takde walimatul urus. Sedang walimatul urus itu perlu untuk hebahkan yang anak-anak dah kahwin. itu cara islam. Ok. Tapi yang tak oknya, bersanding tu ha. Kesian saya pakcik, saya seorang bayar mahar untuk anak pakcik, orang lain pun dapat tengok. Siap kalau berhias secara berlebihan dan orang lain yang lihat menaikkan nafsu syahwat mereka, saya yang berdosa pakcik. Saya yang tanggung dosa dia. insyaAllah pakcik. Kita bukan nak buat apa pakcik. Syariat memang camtu. Maha baiknya Allah sebab jaga kita selama ini, tapi benda remeh-temeh camni pun kita masih pandang ringan dan kita tak menjaga apa yang telah Allah janjikan. Susah lah camtu pakcik.,Sory lah pakcik kalau ada kata saya yang membuat pakcik kurang senang ngan saya. Segala-galanya kita serah pada Allah, kita merancang je. Azan zohor berkumandang, jaraknya tidak sampai 10 dari surau berdekatan rumah si gadis. Si teruna memohon untuk ke surau dan mengajak bapa si gadis untuk pergi bersama. Namun ajakan ditolak dengan lembut. Lantas memberi salam dan memohon untuk keluar. Di birai tingkap bapa si gadis melihat si teruna mengeluarkan kopiah dari poketnya dan segera di pakainya. Masuk ke dalam kereta dan hilang dari penglihatan bapa si gadis tadi. Sedang si gadis yang sedari tadi berdiri di balik tirai bersama ibunya menitiskan air mata mendengar luahan kata-kata si teruna terhadap ayahnya. Tudung pemberian si teruna sebagai hadiah pada hari jadinya yang lepas digenggam erat. Ibu si gadis juga menitiskan air mata melihat pada kelakuan anaknya. Segera ibu dan si gadis ke ruang tamu menghadap ayahnya.
Ibu G : apa yang budak tu kata betul. Kita ni tak beratkan pada agama selama ni. Kita sambil lewa abahnya.
Bapa G : hmm.. ntahlah, tak tahulah saya. Keras betul budak tu kata tadi. Satu-satu kena. Dia pesan tadi, suruh bersiap, lepas zohor dia amik kamu.
Gadis : takde mood nak pegi la ayah. Ntah,,
Si gadis terus mencapai telefon bimbitnya dan menaip mesej.
Si teruna yang selesai mengambil wuduk tersenyum apabila membaca mesej yang baru sahaja diterima daripada si gadis
“andai Allah telah memilih dirimu untukku,
aku redha dan akan terus bersama mu,
aku juga akan terus pada agama yang ada padamu.” “ : )”
“petang ni takde mood nak keluar, Sory.
Minggu depan ayah suruh hantar rombongan.
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
11 January
wah, lame gile tak update blog ni, mesti berhabuk dah. 11 January macam tajuk lagu Kumpulan Gigi dah, aku bosan abes dah ni, terberancai. Nak2 exam week ni kan, memang serabut la kepale aku ni, banyak dandruff dah. Aku masih lagi single dan bermingle, buat masa ni tiada yang macam aku nak tapi macam2 la aku dah buat sepanjang aku tak update natang ni, travel sana-sini, lepak2, enjoy2 dan lain2. Mata aku ni dah rabak ngadap notes2 yang ade ni actually, tu pasal la merajinkan diri update blog nak kasi segar mate apabila neskapir tidak lagi berkesan untuk mate aku.
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Some SYNONYMS for STUPID, if you have other words share it with me
There are moments when we can't handle the temptation to call someone STUPID for things that person has done or said. Here are some synonyms for STUPID that can be used...and have fun:
brainless, dazed, deficient, dense, dim, doltish, dopey, dull, dumb, dummy, foolish, futile, gullible, half-baked, half-witted, idiotic, ill-advised, imbecilic, inane, indiscreet, insensate, irrelevant, laughable, loser, ludicrous, meaningless, mindless, moronic, naive, nonsensical, obtuse, out to lunch, pointless, puerile, rash, senseless, shortsighted, simple, simpleminded, slow, sluggish, stolid, stupefied, thick, thick-headed, trivial, unintelligent, unthinking, witless.
brainless, dazed, deficient, dense, dim, doltish, dopey, dull, dumb, dummy, foolish, futile, gullible, half-baked, half-witted, idiotic, ill-advised, imbecilic, inane, indiscreet, insensate, irrelevant, laughable, loser, ludicrous, meaningless, mindless, moronic, naive, nonsensical, obtuse, out to lunch, pointless, puerile, rash, senseless, shortsighted, simple, simpleminded, slow, sluggish, stolid, stupefied, thick, thick-headed, trivial, unintelligent, unthinking, witless.
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
99 FACTS ABOUT BOYS
1. Guys don’t actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.
2. Guys hate flirts.
3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.
4. When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is.
5. “Are you doing something?” or “Have you eaten already?” are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.
6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
7. When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characteristics.
8. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.
9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention.
10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.
11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.
12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can’t. And they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking!
13. Guys cry!!!
14. Don’t provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.
15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.
16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.
17. When you touch a guy’s heart, there’s no turning back.
18. Giving a guy a hanging message like “You know what? Uh…never mind!” would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.
19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.
20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
21. When a guy makes a prolonged “umm” or makes any excuses when you’re asking him to do you a favor, he’s actually saying that he doesn’t like you and he can’t lay down the card for you.
22. When a girl says “no”, a guy hears it as “try again tomorrow.”
23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
24. Guys hate nice boy!
25. Guys love their moms.
26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn’t mean that the guy likes her.
28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.
30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
31. Like Eve, girls are guys’ weaknesses.
32. Guys are very open about themselves.
33. Its good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don’t let him wait that long.
34. No guy is bad when he is courting
35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they’re not that much pretty.
37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.
39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.
41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.
42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.
43. Guys virtually brag about anything.
44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.
45. Guys think too much.
46. Guys’ fantasies are unlimited.
47. Girls’ height doesn’t really matter to a guy but her weight does!
48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!
49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.
50. It’s not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they’ve been together for 3 years or more.
51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with that guy.
52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he’s too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won’t be matured and grow up.
53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.
54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.
55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends.
56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he’s sweating. You’ll probably see that he is nervous.
57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.
58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying, “Please come and listen to me”
59. Guys don’t really have final decisions.
60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.
61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him.
62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.
63. Guys believe that there’s no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.
64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.
65. Guys don’t like girls who punch harder than they do.
66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.
67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.
68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.
69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!
70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
71. A guy’s friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.
72. Don’t be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.
73. Don’t be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you’ll be surprised.
74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting guys.
75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.
76. Guys don’t comprehend the statement “Get lost” too well.
77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.
78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.
79. Guys don’t care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.
80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they’ll realize they’re wrong.
81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He’s just too stubborn to deal with it.
82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.
83. Guys’ weakest point is at the knee.
84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.
85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.
86. When a guy looks at you, either he’s amazed of you or he’s criticizing you.
87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.
88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.
89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you’re with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.
90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!
92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.
93. When a guy says he can’t sleep if he doesn’t hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.
94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.
95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.
96. Girls are allowed to touch boys’ things. Not their hair!
97. If a guy says you’re beautiful, that guy likes you.
98. Guys hate girls who overreact.
99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.
2. Guys hate flirts.
3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.
4. When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is.
5. “Are you doing something?” or “Have you eaten already?” are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.
6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
7. When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characteristics.
8. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.
9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention.
10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.
11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.
12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can’t. And they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking!
13. Guys cry!!!
14. Don’t provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.
15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.
16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.
17. When you touch a guy’s heart, there’s no turning back.
18. Giving a guy a hanging message like “You know what? Uh…never mind!” would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.
19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.
20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
21. When a guy makes a prolonged “umm” or makes any excuses when you’re asking him to do you a favor, he’s actually saying that he doesn’t like you and he can’t lay down the card for you.
22. When a girl says “no”, a guy hears it as “try again tomorrow.”
23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
24. Guys hate nice boy!
25. Guys love their moms.
26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn’t mean that the guy likes her.
28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.
30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
31. Like Eve, girls are guys’ weaknesses.
32. Guys are very open about themselves.
33. Its good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don’t let him wait that long.
34. No guy is bad when he is courting
35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they’re not that much pretty.
37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.
39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.
41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.
42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.
43. Guys virtually brag about anything.
44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.
45. Guys think too much.
46. Guys’ fantasies are unlimited.
47. Girls’ height doesn’t really matter to a guy but her weight does!
48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!
49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.
50. It’s not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they’ve been together for 3 years or more.
51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with that guy.
52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he’s too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won’t be matured and grow up.
53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.
54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.
55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends.
56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he’s sweating. You’ll probably see that he is nervous.
57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.
58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying, “Please come and listen to me”
59. Guys don’t really have final decisions.
60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.
61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him.
62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.
63. Guys believe that there’s no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.
64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.
65. Guys don’t like girls who punch harder than they do.
66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.
67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.
68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.
69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!
70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
71. A guy’s friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.
72. Don’t be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.
73. Don’t be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you’ll be surprised.
74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting guys.
75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.
76. Guys don’t comprehend the statement “Get lost” too well.
77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.
78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.
79. Guys don’t care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.
80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they’ll realize they’re wrong.
81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He’s just too stubborn to deal with it.
82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.
83. Guys’ weakest point is at the knee.
84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.
85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.
86. When a guy looks at you, either he’s amazed of you or he’s criticizing you.
87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.
88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.
89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you’re with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.
90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!
92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.
93. When a guy says he can’t sleep if he doesn’t hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.
94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.
95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.
96. Girls are allowed to touch boys’ things. Not their hair!
97. If a guy says you’re beautiful, that guy likes you.
98. Guys hate girls who overreact.
99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.
Saturday, October 8, 2011
DI MANA LETAKNYA KEGAGAHAN LELAKI DAN WANITA
Kecantikan seorang lelaki bukan kepada rupa fizikal tetapi pada murni
rohani. Lelaki yang cantik adalah:-
1) Lelaki yang mampu mengalirkan air mata untuk ingatan.
2) Lelaki yang sedia menerima segala teguran.
3) Lelaki yang memberi madu, setelah menerima racun.
4) Lelaki yang tenang dan lapang dada.
5) Lelaki yang baik sangka.
6) Lelaki yang tak pernah putus asa.
Kegagahan seorang wanita bukan kepada pejal otot badan, tetapi pada
kekuatan perasaan. Perempuan yang gagah adalah:-
1) Perempuan yang tahan menerima sebuah kehilangan.
2) Perempuan yang tidak takut pada kemiskinan.
3) Perempuan yang tabah menanggung kerinduan setelah ditinggalkan.
4) Perempuan yang tidak meminta-minta agar di penuhi segala keinginan.
rohani. Lelaki yang cantik adalah:-
1) Lelaki yang mampu mengalirkan air mata untuk ingatan.
2) Lelaki yang sedia menerima segala teguran.
3) Lelaki yang memberi madu, setelah menerima racun.
4) Lelaki yang tenang dan lapang dada.
5) Lelaki yang baik sangka.
6) Lelaki yang tak pernah putus asa.
Kegagahan seorang wanita bukan kepada pejal otot badan, tetapi pada
kekuatan perasaan. Perempuan yang gagah adalah:-
1) Perempuan yang tahan menerima sebuah kehilangan.
2) Perempuan yang tidak takut pada kemiskinan.
3) Perempuan yang tabah menanggung kerinduan setelah ditinggalkan.
4) Perempuan yang tidak meminta-minta agar di penuhi segala keinginan.
Sunday, October 2, 2011
In Relationship dalam FB? Berhati-hati
Salam satu Malaysia semua,
Setelah baca cerita seorang rakan aku ni, ade la mende aku nak share, ni kisah benar weh. Dan sebagai conclusion sebagai seorang rakan yang prihatin, aku ingin menasihatkan rakan-rakan aku, tak perlu la bercouple dengan orang yang korang tak pernah jumpe. Ini memeang banyak kot jadi kat FB. Serius, korang tak pernah jumpe takkan nak couple, kena fikir secara logic dan terbuka, mostly semue pon dah besor dan matangkan. Pikir baik-baik dulu sebelum couple ni, dah jumpe depan mate, same dalam profile pic FB ke kalo korang nak couple lantak korang la. Tapi kalo korang tak pernah jumpe lepas tengok profile pic kat FB giler bapak hot or cute, simpan je la niat korang. Kekadang muke betol orang tu muke pecah pintu kot, lebih cantik dari bulu kaki or bulu ketiak aku. Aku share cite ni pon tak nak kawan-kawan aku terkena kencing dengan fakers, bagi aku fakers ni memang hukum bunuh je, tak pon bagi cacat terus ke, dok menipu orang je keje. Memang la betol ade istilah "tak kenal maka tak cinta", tapi korang kene paham la "tak kenal maka tak cinta" tu korang penah jumpe depan mate, tapi segan-segan and malu-malu ayam nak bertegur, aku pon penah macam tu sejujurnye, cume takde keberanian la sebab muke aku bukan macam Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt. Tu letak tepi la, yang penting korang kena pandai la nak hidup, jangan la bagi diri kite ni kene tipu sebab mende bodoh macam ni. HAPUSKAN FAKERS, FAKERS = F**KERS!!!
p/s: mintak maaf kalo bahase aku kesat or kasar, ni memang aku yang type, bosan petang2 ni lagi nak release tension, minggu final exam ni, damn....
-TAS-
Setelah baca cerita seorang rakan aku ni, ade la mende aku nak share, ni kisah benar weh. Dan sebagai conclusion sebagai seorang rakan yang prihatin, aku ingin menasihatkan rakan-rakan aku, tak perlu la bercouple dengan orang yang korang tak pernah jumpe. Ini memeang banyak kot jadi kat FB. Serius, korang tak pernah jumpe takkan nak couple, kena fikir secara logic dan terbuka, mostly semue pon dah besor dan matangkan. Pikir baik-baik dulu sebelum couple ni, dah jumpe depan mate, same dalam profile pic FB ke kalo korang nak couple lantak korang la. Tapi kalo korang tak pernah jumpe lepas tengok profile pic kat FB giler bapak hot or cute, simpan je la niat korang. Kekadang muke betol orang tu muke pecah pintu kot, lebih cantik dari bulu kaki or bulu ketiak aku. Aku share cite ni pon tak nak kawan-kawan aku terkena kencing dengan fakers, bagi aku fakers ni memang hukum bunuh je, tak pon bagi cacat terus ke, dok menipu orang je keje. Memang la betol ade istilah "tak kenal maka tak cinta", tapi korang kene paham la "tak kenal maka tak cinta" tu korang penah jumpe depan mate, tapi segan-segan and malu-malu ayam nak bertegur, aku pon penah macam tu sejujurnye, cume takde keberanian la sebab muke aku bukan macam Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt. Tu letak tepi la, yang penting korang kena pandai la nak hidup, jangan la bagi diri kite ni kene tipu sebab mende bodoh macam ni. HAPUSKAN FAKERS, FAKERS = F**KERS!!!
p/s: mintak maaf kalo bahase aku kesat or kasar, ni memang aku yang type, bosan petang2 ni lagi nak release tension, minggu final exam ni, damn....
-TAS-
Sunday, September 25, 2011
14 Deadly Words Women Love To Use, Guys BEWARE!!!
1. Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use “fine” to describe how a woman looks - this will cause you to have one of those arguments.
2. Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
3. Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means “something”, and you should be on your toes. “Nothing” is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. “Nothing” usually signifies an argument that will last “Five Minutes” and end with “Fine”.
4. Go Ahead: At some point in the near future, you are going to be in some mighty big trouble.
5. Go Ahead (With Raised Eyebrows): This is a dare, not permission. In other words, don't do it!
6. Go Ahead (Neutral Expression): This means “I give up” or “do what you want because I don’t care” You will get a “Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead” in just a few minutes, followed by “Nothing” and “Fine” and she will talk to you in about “Five Minutes” when she cools off.
7. Loud Sigh: This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A “Loud Sigh” means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment, and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over “Nothing”. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
8. Soft Sigh: Again, not a word, but a non-verbal statement. “Soft Sighs” mean that she is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe, and she will stay content.
9. That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. “That’s Okay” means that she wants to think long and hard before paying you back for whatever it is that you have done. “That’s Okay” is often used with the word “Fine” and in conjunction with a “Raised Eyebrow”.
10. Please Do: This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance with the truth, so be careful and you shouldn’t get a “That’s Okay”.
11. Thanks: A woman is thanking you. Do not faint. Just say you’re welcome.
12. Thanks A Lot: This is much different from “Thanks.” A woman will say, “Thanks A Lot” when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have offended her in some callous way, and will be followed by the “Loud Sigh.” Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the “Loud Sigh,” as she will only tell you “Nothing”.
13. Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.
14. Whatever: This is a woman's way of saying F- YOU!
2. Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
3. Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means “something”, and you should be on your toes. “Nothing” is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. “Nothing” usually signifies an argument that will last “Five Minutes” and end with “Fine”.
4. Go Ahead: At some point in the near future, you are going to be in some mighty big trouble.
5. Go Ahead (With Raised Eyebrows): This is a dare, not permission. In other words, don't do it!
6. Go Ahead (Neutral Expression): This means “I give up” or “do what you want because I don’t care” You will get a “Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead” in just a few minutes, followed by “Nothing” and “Fine” and she will talk to you in about “Five Minutes” when she cools off.
7. Loud Sigh: This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A “Loud Sigh” means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment, and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over “Nothing”. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
8. Soft Sigh: Again, not a word, but a non-verbal statement. “Soft Sighs” mean that she is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe, and she will stay content.
9. That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. “That’s Okay” means that she wants to think long and hard before paying you back for whatever it is that you have done. “That’s Okay” is often used with the word “Fine” and in conjunction with a “Raised Eyebrow”.
10. Please Do: This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance with the truth, so be careful and you shouldn’t get a “That’s Okay”.
11. Thanks: A woman is thanking you. Do not faint. Just say you’re welcome.
12. Thanks A Lot: This is much different from “Thanks.” A woman will say, “Thanks A Lot” when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have offended her in some callous way, and will be followed by the “Loud Sigh.” Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the “Loud Sigh,” as she will only tell you “Nothing”.
13. Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.
14. Whatever: This is a woman's way of saying F- YOU!
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
IF
If You Are In Love:
. Make the best of it.
. Don't doubt anything.
. Enjoy it because nothing lasts forever.
If You Just Broke Up:
. Don cry! Remember that you had a good time!
. Never stay alone! Your friends are there.
. Hug more people.
. Stop listening to sad music! It only make things worse
If You Are Single (just like me):
. Stay happy.
. Hang out with friends and family.
. Try looking for someone who you think is the best for you!
If You Are Married:
. Game Over Just Forget what you read
. Make the best of it.
. Don't doubt anything.
. Enjoy it because nothing lasts forever.
If You Just Broke Up:
. Don cry! Remember that you had a good time!
. Never stay alone! Your friends are there.
. Hug more people.
. Stop listening to sad music! It only make things worse
If You Are Single (just like me):
. Stay happy.
. Hang out with friends and family.
. Try looking for someone who you think is the best for you!
If You Are Married:
. Game Over Just Forget what you read
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
7 TYPES OF GIRLS
1. HARD DISK Girls:
Remember everything forever.
2. RAM Girls:
Forgets about you the moment
you go away from her.
3. SCREENSAVER Girls:
Just for looking.
4. INTERNET Girls:
Difficult to access.
5. SERVER Girls:
Always busy when needed.
6. MULTIMEDIA Girls:
Makes horrible things looks
beautiful.
7. VIRUS:These type of girls are
normally called 'WIFE'
once enters in your system don't
leave even after format.
Remember everything forever.
2. RAM Girls:
Forgets about you the moment
you go away from her.
3. SCREENSAVER Girls:
Just for looking.
4. INTERNET Girls:
Difficult to access.
5. SERVER Girls:
Always busy when needed.
6. MULTIMEDIA Girls:
Makes horrible things looks
beautiful.
7. VIRUS:These type of girls are
normally called 'WIFE'
once enters in your system don't
leave even after format.
Sunday, August 7, 2011
Love Is Unseen
When you are together with that special someone, you pretend to ignore that person. But when that special someone is not around, you might look around to find them. At that moment, you are in love. Although there is someone else who always makes you laugh, your eyes and attention might go only to that special someone. Then, you are in love. If you are much more excited for one short comment at FACEBOOK or TWITTER from that special someone than other many long comment, you are in love. When you get a couple of free movie tickets, you wouldn't hesitate to think of that special someone. Then, you are in love. You keep telling yourself, "that special someone is just a friend", but you realize that you can not avoid that person's special attraction. At that moment, you are in love. While you are reading this note, if someone appears in your mind, then u are in love with that person. Love Is Unseen.
Awal-awal Ramadhan
A'kum,
First week bulan puasa memang agak extreme dan agak azab untuk aku, nak kena hadap 5 paper, tido x cukup, duit asyik2 kene klua, beli makanan. Memanglah aku hidup bujang boleh saving, tapi xkan hari2 aku nak kena hadap maggi, ade jugak otak aku jadi slow and lame2 rambut gugur. Kalo gi bazaar pon skali klua duit ade la memang cecah RM10 x pon lebey, belom kire duit beli rokok lagi sebab topup phone 2 memang jarang sangat la aku buat, maklumlah takde awek, single katekan, kawan2 maseh ade? penting untuk roger2? topup credit phone memang dah di latih dan jadi habit aku sebab memandangkan aku takde awek. Cakap la ape pon orang nak cakap, aku tak peduli pon, janji aku puas hati, family and kawan2 aku memahami aku kot, kot la.
First week bulan puasa memang agak extreme dan agak azab untuk aku, nak kena hadap 5 paper, tido x cukup, duit asyik2 kene klua, beli makanan. Memanglah aku hidup bujang boleh saving, tapi xkan hari2 aku nak kena hadap maggi, ade jugak otak aku jadi slow and lame2 rambut gugur. Kalo gi bazaar pon skali klua duit ade la memang cecah RM10 x pon lebey, belom kire duit beli rokok lagi sebab topup phone 2 memang jarang sangat la aku buat, maklumlah takde awek, single katekan, kawan2 maseh ade? penting untuk roger2? topup credit phone memang dah di latih dan jadi habit aku sebab memandangkan aku takde awek. Cakap la ape pon orang nak cakap, aku tak peduli pon, janji aku puas hati, family and kawan2 aku memahami aku kot, kot la.
Saturday, July 2, 2011
Hints for Life
1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.
2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.
3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
4. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
6. Don't go for looks, they can deceive. Don't go for wealth, even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.
7. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go, be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
8. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.
9. A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck a life. A timely word may level stress. But a loving word may heal and bless.
10. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.
2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.
3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
4. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
6. Don't go for looks, they can deceive. Don't go for wealth, even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.
7. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go, be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
8. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.
9. A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck a life. A timely word may level stress. But a loving word may heal and bless.
10. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.
A Good Man is....
A good man is proud of himself. He respects himself and others. He is aware of who he is. He neither seeks definition from the person he is with, nor does he expect them to read his mind. He is quite capable of articulating his needs.
A good man is hopeful. He is strong enough to make all his dreams come true. He knows love, therefore he gives love. He recognizes that his love has great value and must be reciprocated. If his love is taken for granted, it soon disappears.
A good man has a dash of inspiration, a dabble of endurance. He knows that he will, at time, have to inspire others to reach the potential they have. A good man knows his past, understands his present and moves toward the future.
A good man does not live in fear of the future because of his past. Instead, he understands that his life experiences are merely lessons meant to bring him closer to self knowledge and unconditional self love.
A good man is hopeful. He is strong enough to make all his dreams come true. He knows love, therefore he gives love. He recognizes that his love has great value and must be reciprocated. If his love is taken for granted, it soon disappears.
A good man has a dash of inspiration, a dabble of endurance. He knows that he will, at time, have to inspire others to reach the potential they have. A good man knows his past, understands his present and moves toward the future.
A good man does not live in fear of the future because of his past. Instead, he understands that his life experiences are merely lessons meant to bring him closer to self knowledge and unconditional self love.
Monday, June 20, 2011
“The disappearing act'
If I had to rank all the crappy things a girl can do, I’m pretty sure pulling “the disappearing act” would rate fairly high up there. It’s one of those things that just sucks. And I mean, it suuuuucks. In many ways, it can be worse than a full on relationship and break up. For reals. So let’s examine this heinous trick. And figure out what should we do when faced with a girl who’s playing like she’s a magician.
What is it? “The disappearing act” happens when a girl drops off the face of the earth. Suddenly, that girl who was all over you just stops calling and goes dark. Like pitch black, midnight dark. You’ll think things like “maybe she was killed in a freak firecracker accident?” or “maybe his phone fell into a puddle and he lost all his numbers?” Alas, no. What has happened is you’ve been blown off, bro. Big time. And by a girl who didn’t have the balls to tell you to your face. (Or over the phone. Or even through a lousy text, goshdarnit!)
Why does it hurt so badly? I've held a theory for a long time. Here it is: Sometimes the hardest “relationships” to get over are the ones that never had a chance to develop fully. Think about it. If you go out with a girl for a year or two, you have the opportunity to see it all, the good, the bad, and the downright horrific. Even if you break up, it will because things will have run their course. You’ll have closure. Not so with “the disappearing act.” Chances are great you never really got to know her. You were just beginning to get a sense of the kind of boyfriend she’d make and dreaming about a life together. And all you’re left with is this, the fantasy of what it could have been and the feeling of “WTF just happened?” Very often it’s being blindsided that knocks us upside down.
Why is it so disrespectful? Feels that way, doesn’t it? You’ll wonder how you could have had that minimal of an impact on her feelings that she could just walk away with no explanation. You’ll feel dumb for caring so much for a girl who cared so little. I get it. But here’s what you have to remember, Girls DON’T care the way we do. They DON’T invest the way we do. At least not as quickly as we do. So what we think is serious, a girl may think is casual. What we think is potential love, a girl may think is only lust. It’s just the way it works.
Why do they do it? Who the hell knows. They just do. Maybe they get bored. Maybe they get sick of a man’s drama and/or demands. Maybe they know it’s not going to go any further. Maybe they meet someone else. But whatever the reasons, I will promise you two things: It happens because (1) she’s lost interest and (2) she doesn't have the strength and/or courage to be honest and upfront with the man in question. Personally, I think “the disappearing act” is very cowardly. I’d rather a girl tell me straight up she doesn't dig me than have her “spare my feelings” and just go radio silent.
How do you handle it? Here’s what you’ll want to do: Call her out. Get an explanation. Find your “closure.” But, as one of my readers so aptly put it in an email to me, “Sometimes your closure is just realizing that this girl is scum.” Yeah, bro. Sadly, that is very often all the closure you’ll get. And all you should try to get. Attempting to force her hand to defend her actions will rarely result in anything good. You’re not likely to get a real answer. (Should she actually answer the phone, rest assured the following will be coming out of her mouth: “Ummmm, I've been busy…” Sound familiar?) So here’s what you have to do, Let her disappear. As tough as it is, it’s really your only recourse. Do anything else and you’ll either be the dumb guy who bought into her excuses or you’ll come off looking like a desperado, or both. (Trust me, I’ve been both and it ain’t pretty.)
What do you do if (and when) she suddenly reappears? Every good magic trick ends with the rabbit or the girl in the box rematerializing, doesn't it? Very much like these girl who disappear, as well. It’s been my experience that unless you act like a complete nut job or it was totally 100% about sex in her mind, they very often show up again. One day you’ll just be sitting there, minding your own business (and very nearly over her) and poof! There she is! Maybe you’ll get a text (probably wouldn't be anything as blatant as a call) or an FB friend request (yeah, you a-holes know you who are). You’re going to have to seriously ask yourself if it’s worth it to let her back in. Chances are it’s not. If she can disappear once, what’s to stop her from disappearing again?
Since I embarked on this journey, I made a vow that I would always try to see the long term impact of my decisions. I didn’t want to do things I would later regret. I haven’t been perfect in this (hardly), but I’ve learned a lot of lessons and grown a lot, as well. Here’s the deal, if you take things slowly, keep your wits about you, and make her show you who she is before falling for her (or sleeping with her), there’s a much greater chance she will keep coming after you.
Sunday, June 12, 2011
My blood type
O Blood Type : Social, Active, Curious
People with blood type O are kind and place great emphasis on peace. They have bright personalities and a talent to lead others. Passion and honesty are among their greatest traits. Type O's make friends easily wherever they go and have great social skills. While they are curious about many thing, they get bored just as easily. To others, they seem like cool and controlled, but they also make big mistakes because of their careless characteristics.
Best traits: ambitious, athletic, confident.
World straits: arrogant, vain, careless.
People with blood type O are kind and place great emphasis on peace. They have bright personalities and a talent to lead others. Passion and honesty are among their greatest traits. Type O's make friends easily wherever they go and have great social skills. While they are curious about many thing, they get bored just as easily. To others, they seem like cool and controlled, but they also make big mistakes because of their careless characteristics.
Best traits: ambitious, athletic, confident.
World straits: arrogant, vain, careless.
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
YOU
There are people who deserve you and people who don’t. If you have someone in your life who takes you for granted or doesn’t give you the respect that you deserve, leave them in the past where they belong. Surround yourself with people who challenge your mind and bring out the best in you. As for the ones who only exist to bring you down or cheapen your potential, let them find people who are better-suited to their own qualities and principles. Hold yourself to the highest standard possible. People who don’t measure up don’t deserve your time. People who can’t see past their own cowardice or their own arrogance don’t deserve your time. Anyone who doesn’t treat you the way you treat yourself doesn’t deserve your time. And if you are treating yourself in a way that gives people permission to take advantage of you, start showing yourself the exact same respect that you should be demanding of everyone else. You’re really worth more than you give yourself credit for. It’s time that you start making sure people recognize that.
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
Blinded by LOVE - Time to open up the history book of my love life.
Some call it love. Some call it fate. And some call it bad luck. I happen to be the guy with the bad luck when it comes to dating. Maybe it's my personality I should blame?! Maybe I was born to be love-frustrated? I'm the type of guy who pours 100% of my heart into every aspect of my life. Whether I'm creating a new cookie recipe for my friends to try, brainstorming some crazy event to impact the lives of others, or taking a chance on love and letting down the protective wall around my heart, I stay true to myself and always give it my all.
I’ll admit that my passion for life is a bit peculiar. It was pointed out by an ex girlfriend, who we will refer to as The Rebound, that I have little hunger for ........... , but a huge appetite for experiences. I love LOVE! I love the energy of a new relationship. The development of the story which you might someday share with your future children. The butterflies you get in your stomach when you see her name popup on the caller id. The rush of blood in your body when she kisses you after not seeing you for a few hours. The softness of her lips when they first touch yours. The smell of her perfume as she walks next to you. The hours of pointless conversation where you’re just mesmerized by the sound of her voice. The moments when your eyes meet and everything in the world seems to disappear. The hope that she just might be The One.
I’ll admit that my passion for life is a bit peculiar. It was pointed out by an ex girlfriend, who we will refer to as The Rebound, that I have little hunger for ........... , but a huge appetite for experiences. I love LOVE! I love the energy of a new relationship. The development of the story which you might someday share with your future children. The butterflies you get in your stomach when you see her name popup on the caller id. The rush of blood in your body when she kisses you after not seeing you for a few hours. The softness of her lips when they first touch yours. The smell of her perfume as she walks next to you. The hours of pointless conversation where you’re just mesmerized by the sound of her voice. The moments when your eyes meet and everything in the world seems to disappear. The hope that she just might be The One.
Each time, it always seems just right, but it hasn’t worked out to stand the test of time or personal growth. In order to really understand my frustration with “love” or “bad love luck” (bll), we need to open up the history book of my love life.
Yes, but does she RESPECT you?
It's no big deal if a girl wants to sleep with you. It's no challenge for most men to put on some hoochie-garb and find a willing accomplice for the evening. Let's face it - this takes minimal work and effort. Which may be why his initial level of physical attraction doesn't necessarily determine the strength of her desire to have a relationship with you. And if you think you're gonna get a girl to like you - to want to be with you for the long-term - just becauses he finds you desirable,...well, think again.
We all know that women are visual creatures. They're attracted to what they SEE. And most women SEE a lot that attracts them. But what sets you apart, what determines if she views you as a passing thing or as something serious, is based on who you are on the inside. And ultimately, whether or not he RESPECTS you. Respect. It all boils down to respect.
Not too long ago, I heard a great quote: You can't demand respect, you command it. Love that! It's so true, isn't it? So if you are feeling disrespected; if your relationships seem to fizzle rather than sizzle; or if you are having problems sustaining women's interest, read on. This one is for you.
1. Respect yourself - If you don't respect yourself (your thoughts, your dreams, your body, etc), how can you expect anyone else to? No woman will respect a man who doesn't respect herself. Period. End of story. So how do you respect yourself? By liking yourself. By knowing who you are and being true to that. By having boundaries that you allow no woman (or man) to cross. A man who respects himself doesn't chase after women in order to gain approval. He doesn't need someone else's acceptance in order to feel good about himself. He believes in himself and holds out for relationships with people who also believe in him. And he doesn't settle for relationships where he's treated badly. Ever.
2. Assert yourself - I don't believe in being a boobs buster. That's gross. And very few women like it when a man tries to push them around. You aren't the boss of her. But you most certainly are the boss of yourself. You determine the course of your life. No one else! And you absolutely have control over charting your direction. Women respect men who have their own goals and opinions. Adopting a "whatever you want, honey" attitude may appeal to her at first. But watch how quickly boredom will set in. If you don't like how you are being treated, stick up for yourself. If you want something you're not getting, be direct and tell her. Don't keep your mouth shut and become resentful. And certainly don't stomp your feet or pout like a little boy. Women respect men who know what they want and have the strength to get it.
3. Maintain yourself - One of the fastest ways she'll lose respect is if you give up everything important to you for her. When you cease to be the center of your own life and instead orbit around her, she won't see you as an independent man. She'll see you as a clingy child. Why? Two reasons. First, most women are acutely aware they are no superhero. She knows she's not perfect and when you act like she's your end all-be all, she can't help but wonder what's wrong with you. She wants you to think she's great and super neato and all that. But making her the center of your universe puts way too much pressure on her. Second, once we abandon everything for a woman it's not too long before we begin demanding reciprocity. "I don't go to bars with my boyfriends. Why do you still go out with the girls?" "You're more important than my work. Why don't you make me more of a priority?" Sound familiar? The fuller your life and the more content you are, the more she'll respect you.
4. Control yourself - One of the fundamental problems with relationships is that most women believe that 99.9% of men are (at least a little bit) crazy. We may get irritated by this (after all, it's THEM who make us crazy, right?), but if we look at this objectively, don't we give them just a bit of ammo? C'mon! Admit it! Haven't we all allowed a girl (at one time or another) to make us go somewhat...psycho? (Seriously, if you never have you deserve some sort of medal.) Here's the deal: Women want men who are in control of their emotions. Why? Because they have no clue how to handle them. For reals. Our emotional outbursts scare them. When you fly off the handle, cry, and scream, they just don't get it. They think your response - to whatever the provocation - is totally out of proportion and completely unreasonable. The more frequent your hissy fits, the more she'll lose respect for you. Bottom line. So, as hard as it may be, try to keep the drama to a minimum. If she's habitually upsetting you to the point you are having trouble controlling your emotions, you should probably assess whether or not she's the girl for you.
5. Save yourself - I'm not a preacher of abstinence. Maybe in a "perfect" world, we'd all be virgins when our first love found our glass slipper and proposed on bended knee. And then we'd get married and go on to be deliriously happy ever after. Yeah, riiiiight. Life ain't no fairy tale. And, for most of us, sex is integral to our relationships. But here's the deal when it comes to sex and respect: The VAST MAJORITY of the time, the faster you have sex with her, the faster she'll lose respect for you. Sleep with her on the first date? Congrats. More than likely you've just committed relationship suicide. Listen up. She's a girl. She wants to sleep with you. Duh! Women learn to respect and begin to really fall for a man in the time BEFORE the relationship is consummated. So don't sell that time short. And if she's not showing respect before you sleep with her, she's certainly not going to treat you with it afterwards.
When a woman truly feels respect for a man, that's when her attraction goes through the roof. And it's the kind of attraction that lasts. Unlike physical attraction, which is fleeting, emotional attraction has staying power. Just like many of our relationship issues, I believe it all goes back to being a "goddess;" that confident creature who is in control of himself and successful in his relationships.
We all know that women are visual creatures. They're attracted to what they SEE. And most women SEE a lot that attracts them. But what sets you apart, what determines if she views you as a passing thing or as something serious, is based on who you are on the inside. And ultimately, whether or not he RESPECTS you. Respect. It all boils down to respect.
Not too long ago, I heard a great quote: You can't demand respect, you command it. Love that! It's so true, isn't it? So if you are feeling disrespected; if your relationships seem to fizzle rather than sizzle; or if you are having problems sustaining women's interest, read on. This one is for you.
1. Respect yourself - If you don't respect yourself (your thoughts, your dreams, your body, etc), how can you expect anyone else to? No woman will respect a man who doesn't respect herself. Period. End of story. So how do you respect yourself? By liking yourself. By knowing who you are and being true to that. By having boundaries that you allow no woman (or man) to cross. A man who respects himself doesn't chase after women in order to gain approval. He doesn't need someone else's acceptance in order to feel good about himself. He believes in himself and holds out for relationships with people who also believe in him. And he doesn't settle for relationships where he's treated badly. Ever.
2. Assert yourself - I don't believe in being a boobs buster. That's gross. And very few women like it when a man tries to push them around. You aren't the boss of her. But you most certainly are the boss of yourself. You determine the course of your life. No one else! And you absolutely have control over charting your direction. Women respect men who have their own goals and opinions. Adopting a "whatever you want, honey" attitude may appeal to her at first. But watch how quickly boredom will set in. If you don't like how you are being treated, stick up for yourself. If you want something you're not getting, be direct and tell her. Don't keep your mouth shut and become resentful. And certainly don't stomp your feet or pout like a little boy. Women respect men who know what they want and have the strength to get it.
3. Maintain yourself - One of the fastest ways she'll lose respect is if you give up everything important to you for her. When you cease to be the center of your own life and instead orbit around her, she won't see you as an independent man. She'll see you as a clingy child. Why? Two reasons. First, most women are acutely aware they are no superhero. She knows she's not perfect and when you act like she's your end all-be all, she can't help but wonder what's wrong with you. She wants you to think she's great and super neato and all that. But making her the center of your universe puts way too much pressure on her. Second, once we abandon everything for a woman it's not too long before we begin demanding reciprocity. "I don't go to bars with my boyfriends. Why do you still go out with the girls?" "You're more important than my work. Why don't you make me more of a priority?" Sound familiar? The fuller your life and the more content you are, the more she'll respect you.
4. Control yourself - One of the fundamental problems with relationships is that most women believe that 99.9% of men are (at least a little bit) crazy. We may get irritated by this (after all, it's THEM who make us crazy, right?), but if we look at this objectively, don't we give them just a bit of ammo? C'mon! Admit it! Haven't we all allowed a girl (at one time or another) to make us go somewhat...psycho? (Seriously, if you never have you deserve some sort of medal.) Here's the deal: Women want men who are in control of their emotions. Why? Because they have no clue how to handle them. For reals. Our emotional outbursts scare them. When you fly off the handle, cry, and scream, they just don't get it. They think your response - to whatever the provocation - is totally out of proportion and completely unreasonable. The more frequent your hissy fits, the more she'll lose respect for you. Bottom line. So, as hard as it may be, try to keep the drama to a minimum. If she's habitually upsetting you to the point you are having trouble controlling your emotions, you should probably assess whether or not she's the girl for you.
5. Save yourself - I'm not a preacher of abstinence. Maybe in a "perfect" world, we'd all be virgins when our first love found our glass slipper and proposed on bended knee. And then we'd get married and go on to be deliriously happy ever after. Yeah, riiiiight. Life ain't no fairy tale. And, for most of us, sex is integral to our relationships. But here's the deal when it comes to sex and respect: The VAST MAJORITY of the time, the faster you have sex with her, the faster she'll lose respect for you. Sleep with her on the first date? Congrats. More than likely you've just committed relationship suicide. Listen up. She's a girl. She wants to sleep with you. Duh! Women learn to respect and begin to really fall for a man in the time BEFORE the relationship is consummated. So don't sell that time short. And if she's not showing respect before you sleep with her, she's certainly not going to treat you with it afterwards.
When a woman truly feels respect for a man, that's when her attraction goes through the roof. And it's the kind of attraction that lasts. Unlike physical attraction, which is fleeting, emotional attraction has staying power. Just like many of our relationship issues, I believe it all goes back to being a "goddess;" that confident creature who is in control of himself and successful in his relationships.
Sunday, April 10, 2011
Listening Skills
You probably spend more time using your listening skills than any other kind of skill. Like other skills, listening takes practice.
What does it mean to really listen?
- Real listening is an active process that has three basic steps.
- Hearing. Hearing just means listening enough to catch what the speaker is saying. For example, say you were listening to a report on zebras, and the speaker mentioned that no two are alike. If you can repeat the fact, then you have heard what has been said.
- Understanding. The next part of listening happens when you take what you have heard and understand it in your own way. Let's go back to that report on zebras. When you hear that no two are alike, think about what that might mean. You might think, "Maybe this means that the pattern of stripes is different for each zebra."
- Judging. After you are sure you understand what the speaker has said, think about whether it makes sense. Do you believe what you have heard? You might think, "How could the stripes to be different for every zebra? But then again, the fingerprints are different for every person. I think this seems believable."
Tips for being a good listener
- Give your full attention on the person who is speaking. Don't look out the window or at what else is going on in the room.
- Make sure your mind is focused, too. It can be easy to let your mind wander if you think you know what the person is going to say next, but you might be wrong! If you feel your mind wandering, change the position of your body and try to concentrate on the speaker's words.
- Let the speaker finish before you begin to talk. Speakers appreciate having the chance to say everything they would like to say without being interrupted. When you interrupt, it looks like you aren't listening, even if you really are.
- Let yourself finish listening before you begin to speak! You can't really listen if you are busy thinking about what you want say next.
- Listen for main ideas. The main ideas are the most important points the speaker wants to get across. They may be mentioned at the start or end of a talk, and repeated a number of times. Pay special attention to statements that begin with phrases such as "My point is..." or "The thing to remember is..."
- Ask questions. If you are not sure you understand what the speaker has said, just ask. It is a good idea to repeat in your own words what the speaker said so that you can be sure your understanding is correct. For example, you might say, "When you said that no two zebras are alike, did you mean that the stripes are different on each one?"
- Give feedback. Sit up straight and look directly at the speaker. Now and then, nod to show that you understand. At appropriate points you may also smile, frown, laugh, or be silent. These are all ways to let the speaker know that you are really listening. Remember, you listen with your face as well as your ears!
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