Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Some SYNONYMS for STUPID, if you have other words share it with me

There are moments when we can't handle the temptation to call someone STUPID for things that person has done or said. Here are some synonyms for STUPID that can be used...and have fun:

brainless, dazed, deficient, dense, dim, doltish, dopey, dull, dumb, dummy, foolish, futile, gullible, half-baked, half-witted, idiotic, ill-advised, imbecilic, inane, indiscreet, insensate, irrelevant, laughable, loser, ludicrous, meaningless, mindless, moronic, naive, nonsensical, obtuse, out to lunch, pointless, puerile, rash, senseless, shortsighted, simple, simpleminded, slow, sluggish, stolid, stupefied, thick, thick-headed, trivial, unintelligent, unthinking, witless.

Tuesday, October 11, 2011


1. Guys don’t actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.

2. Guys hate flirts.

3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.

4. When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is.

5. “Are you doing something?” or “Have you eaten already?” are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.

6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

7. When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characteristics.

8. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.

9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention.

10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.

11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.

12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can’t. And they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking!

13. Guys cry!!!

14. Don’t provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.

15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.

16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.

17. When you touch a guy’s heart, there’s no turning back.

18. Giving a guy a hanging message like “You know what? Uh…never mind!” would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.

19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.

20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.

21. When a guy makes a prolonged “umm” or makes any excuses when you’re asking him to do you a favor, he’s actually saying that he doesn’t like you and he can’t lay down the card for you.

22. When a girl says “no”, a guy hears it as “try again tomorrow.”

23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.

24. Guys hate nice boy!

25. Guys love their moms.

26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.

27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn’t mean that the guy likes her.

28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.

29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.

30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.

31. Like Eve, girls are guys’ weaknesses.

32. Guys are very open about themselves.

33. Its good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don’t let him wait that long.

34. No guy is bad when he is courting

35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.

36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they’re not that much pretty.

37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.

38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.

39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.

41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.

42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.

43. Guys virtually brag about anything.

44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.

45. Guys think too much.

46. Guys’ fantasies are unlimited.

47. Girls’ height doesn’t really matter to a guy but her weight does!

48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!

49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.

50. It’s not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they’ve been together for 3 years or more.

51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with that guy.

52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he’s too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won’t be matured and grow up.

53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.

54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.

55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends.

56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he’s sweating. You’ll probably see that he is nervous.

57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.

58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying, “Please come and listen to me”

59. Guys don’t really have final decisions.

60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.

61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him.

62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.

63. Guys believe that there’s no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.

64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.

65. Guys don’t like girls who punch harder than they do.

66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.

67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.

68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.

69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!

70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

71. A guy’s friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.

72. Don’t be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.

73. Don’t be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you’ll be surprised.

74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting guys.

75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.

76. Guys don’t comprehend the statement “Get lost” too well.

77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.

78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.

79. Guys don’t care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.

80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they’ll realize they’re wrong.

81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He’s just too stubborn to deal with it.

82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.

83. Guys’ weakest point is at the knee.

84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.

85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.

86. When a guy looks at you, either he’s amazed of you or he’s criticizing you.

87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.

88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.

89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you’re with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.

90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.

91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!

92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.

93. When a guy says he can’t sleep if he doesn’t hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.

94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.

95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.

96. Girls are allowed to touch boys’ things. Not their hair!

97. If a guy says you’re beautiful, that guy likes you.

98. Guys hate girls who overreact.

99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.

Saturday, October 8, 2011


Kecantikan seorang lelaki bukan kepada rupa fizikal tetapi pada murni
rohani. Lelaki yang cantik adalah:-

1) Lelaki yang mampu mengalirkan air mata untuk ingatan.

2) Lelaki yang sedia menerima segala teguran.

3) Lelaki yang memberi madu, setelah menerima racun.

4) Lelaki yang tenang dan lapang dada.

5) Lelaki yang baik sangka.

6) Lelaki yang tak pernah putus asa.

Kegagahan seorang wanita bukan kepada pejal otot badan, tetapi pada
kekuatan perasaan. Perempuan yang gagah adalah:-

1) Perempuan yang tahan menerima sebuah kehilangan.

2) Perempuan yang tidak takut pada kemiskinan.

3) Perempuan yang tabah menanggung kerinduan setelah ditinggalkan.

4) Perempuan yang tidak meminta-minta agar di penuhi segala keinginan.

Sunday, October 2, 2011

In Relationship dalam FB? Berhati-hati

Salam satu Malaysia semua,
Setelah baca cerita seorang rakan aku ni, ade la mende aku nak share, ni kisah benar weh. Dan sebagai conclusion sebagai seorang rakan yang prihatin, aku ingin menasihatkan rakan-rakan aku, tak perlu la bercouple dengan orang yang korang tak pernah jumpe. Ini memeang banyak kot jadi kat FB. Serius, korang tak pernah jumpe takkan nak couple, kena fikir secara logic dan terbuka, mostly semue pon dah besor dan matangkan. Pikir baik-baik dulu sebelum couple ni, dah jumpe depan mate, same dalam profile pic FB ke kalo korang nak couple lantak korang la. Tapi kalo korang tak pernah jumpe lepas tengok profile pic kat FB giler bapak hot or cute, simpan je la niat korang. Kekadang muke betol orang tu muke pecah pintu kot, lebih cantik dari bulu kaki or bulu ketiak aku. Aku share cite ni pon tak nak kawan-kawan aku terkena kencing dengan fakers, bagi aku fakers ni memang hukum bunuh je, tak pon bagi cacat terus ke, dok menipu orang je keje. Memang la betol ade istilah "tak kenal maka tak cinta", tapi korang kene paham la "tak kenal maka tak cinta" tu korang penah jumpe depan mate, tapi segan-segan and malu-malu ayam nak bertegur, aku pon penah macam tu sejujurnye, cume takde keberanian la sebab muke aku bukan macam Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt. Tu letak tepi la, yang penting korang kena pandai la nak hidup, jangan la bagi diri kite ni kene tipu sebab mende bodoh macam ni. HAPUSKAN FAKERS, FAKERS = F**KERS!!!

p/s: mintak maaf kalo bahase aku kesat or kasar, ni memang aku yang type, bosan petang2 ni lagi nak release tension, minggu final exam ni, damn....


Sunday, September 25, 2011

14 Deadly Words Women Love To Use, Guys BEWARE!!!

1. Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use “fine” to describe how a woman looks - this will cause you to have one of those arguments.
2. Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
3. Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means “something”, and you should be on your toes. “Nothing” is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. “Nothing” usually signifies an argument that will last “Five Minutes” and end with “Fine”.
4. Go Ahead: At some point in the near future, you are going to be in some mighty big trouble.
5. Go Ahead (With Raised Eyebrows): This is a dare, not permission. In other words, don't do it!
6. Go Ahead (Neutral Expression): This means “I give up” or “do what you want because I don’t care” You will get a “Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead” in just a few minutes, followed by “Nothing” and “Fine” and she will talk to you in about “Five Minutes” when she cools off.
7. Loud Sigh: This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A “Loud Sigh” means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment, and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over “Nothing”. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
8. Soft Sigh: Again, not a word, but a non-verbal statement. “Soft Sighs” mean that she is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe, and she will stay content.
9. That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. “That’s Okay” means that she wants to think long and hard before paying you back for whatever it is that you have done. “That’s Okay” is often used with the word “Fine” and in conjunction with a “Raised Eyebrow”.
10. Please Do: This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance with the truth, so be careful and you shouldn’t get a “That’s Okay”.
11. Thanks: A woman is thanking you. Do not faint. Just say you’re welcome.
12. Thanks A Lot: This is much different from “Thanks.” A woman will say, “Thanks A Lot” when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have offended her in some callous way, and will be followed by the “Loud Sigh.” Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the “Loud Sigh,” as she will only tell you “Nothing”.
13. Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking     'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.
14. Whatever: This is a woman's way of saying F- YOU!

Wednesday, September 7, 2011


If You Are In Love:
. Make the best of it.
. Don't doubt anything.
. Enjoy it because nothing lasts forever.

If You Just Broke Up:
. Don cry! Remember that you had a good time!
. Never stay alone! Your friends are there.
. Hug more people.
. Stop listening to sad music! It only make things worse

If You Are Single (just like me):
. Stay happy.
. Hang out with friends and family.
. Try looking for someone who you think is the best for you!

If You Are Married:
. Game Over Just Forget what you read 

Wednesday, August 17, 2011


1. HARD DISK Girls:
Remember everything forever.

2. RAM Girls:
Forgets about you the moment
you go away from her.

Just for looking.

4. INTERNET Girls:
Difficult to access.

5. SERVER Girls:
Always busy when needed.

Makes horrible things looks

7. VIRUS:These type of girls are
normally called 'WIFE'
once enters in your system don't
leave even after format.

Sunday, August 7, 2011

Love Is Unseen

When you are together with that special someone, you pretend to ignore that person. But when that special someone is not around, you might look around to find them. At that moment, you are in love. Although there is someone else who always makes you laugh, your eyes and attention might go only to that special someone. Then, you are in love. If you are much more excited for one short comment at FACEBOOK or TWITTER from that special someone than other many long comment, you are in love. When you get a couple of free movie tickets, you wouldn't  hesitate to think of that special someone. Then, you are in love. You keep telling yourself, "that special someone is just a friend", but you realize that you can not avoid that person's special attraction. At that moment, you are in love. While you are reading this note, if someone appears in your mind, then u are in love with that person. Love Is Unseen.

Awal-awal Ramadhan


First week bulan puasa memang agak extreme dan agak azab untuk aku, nak kena hadap 5 paper, tido x cukup, duit asyik2 kene klua, beli makanan. Memanglah aku hidup bujang boleh saving, tapi xkan hari2 aku nak kena hadap maggi, ade jugak otak aku jadi slow and lame2 rambut gugur. Kalo gi bazaar pon skali klua duit ade la memang cecah RM10 x pon lebey, belom kire duit beli rokok lagi sebab topup phone 2 memang jarang sangat la aku buat, maklumlah takde awek, single katekan, kawan2 maseh ade? penting untuk roger2? topup credit phone memang dah di latih dan jadi habit aku sebab memandangkan aku takde awek. Cakap la ape pon orang nak cakap, aku tak peduli pon, janji aku puas hati, family and kawan2 aku memahami aku kot, kot la.

Saturday, July 2, 2011

Hints for Life

1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.

2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.

3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.

4. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.

5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

6. Don't go for looks, they can deceive. Don't go for wealth, even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.

7. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go, be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.

8. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.

9. A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck a life. A timely word may level stress. But a loving word may heal and bless.

10. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.

A Good Man is....

A good man is proud of himself. He respects himself and others. He is aware of who he is. He neither seeks definition from the person he is with, nor does he expect them to read his mind. He is quite capable of articulating his needs.
A good man is hopeful. He is strong enough to make all his dreams come true. He knows love, therefore he gives love. He recognizes that his love has great value and must be reciprocated. If his love is taken for granted, it soon disappears.
A good man has a dash of inspiration, a dabble of endurance. He knows that he will, at time, have to inspire others to reach the potential they have. A good man knows his past, understands his present and moves toward the future.
A good man does not live in fear of the future because of his past. Instead, he understands that his life experiences are merely lessons meant to bring him closer to self knowledge and unconditional self love.

Monday, June 20, 2011

“The disappearing act'

If I had to rank all the crappy things a girl can do, I’m pretty sure pulling “the disappearing act” would rate fairly high up there.  It’s one of those things that just sucks.  And I mean, it suuuuucks.  In many ways, it can be worse than a full on relationship and break up.  For reals.  So let’s examine this heinous trick.  And figure out what should we do when faced with a girl who’s playing like she’s a magician.
What is it?  “The disappearing act” happens when a girl drops off the face of the earth.  Suddenly, that girl who was all over you just stops calling and goes dark.  Like pitch black, midnight dark.  You’ll think things like “maybe she was killed in a freak firecracker accident?” or “maybe his phone fell into a puddle and he lost all his numbers?”  Alas, no.  What has happened is you’ve been blown off, bro.  Big time.  And by a girl who didn’t have the balls to tell you to your face.  (Or over the phone.  Or even through a lousy text, goshdarnit!) 
Why does it hurt so badly?  I've held a theory for a long time.  Here it is:  Sometimes the hardest “relationships” to get over are the ones that never had a chance to develop fully.  Think about it.  If you go out with a girl for a year or two, you have the opportunity to see it all, the good, the bad, and the downright horrific.  Even if you break up, it will because things will have run their course.  You’ll have closure.  Not so with “the disappearing act.”  Chances are great you never really got to know her.  You were just beginning to get a sense of the kind of boyfriend she’d make and dreaming about a life together.  And all you’re left with is this, the fantasy of what it could have been and the feeling of “WTF just happened?”  Very often it’s being blindsided that knocks us upside down.
Why is it so disrespectful?  Feels that way, doesn’t it?  You’ll wonder how you could have had that minimal of an impact on her feelings that she could just walk away with no explanation.  You’ll feel dumb for caring so much for a girl who cared so little.  I get it.  But here’s what you have to remember,  Girls DON’T care the way we do.  They DON’T invest the way we do.  At least not as quickly as we do.  So what we think is serious, a girl may think is casual.  What we think is potential love, a girl may think is only lust.  It’s just the way it works.
Why do they do it?  Who the hell knows.  They just do.  Maybe they get bored.  Maybe they get sick of a man’s drama and/or demands.  Maybe they know it’s not going to go any further.  Maybe they meet someone else.  But whatever the reasons, I will promise you two things:  It happens because (1) she’s lost interest and (2) she doesn't have the strength and/or courage to be honest and upfront with the man in question.  Personally, I think “the disappearing act” is very cowardly.  I’d rather a girl tell me straight up she doesn't dig me than have her “spare my feelings” and just go radio silent.
How do you handle it?  Here’s what you’ll want to do:  Call her out.  Get an explanation.  Find your “closure.”  But, as one of my readers so aptly put it in an email to me, “Sometimes your closure is just realizing that this girl is scum.”  Yeah, bro.  Sadly, that is very often all the closure you’ll get.  And all you should try to get.  Attempting to force her hand to defend her actions will rarely result in anything good.  You’re not likely to get a real answer.  (Should she actually answer the phone, rest assured the following will be coming out of her mouth:  “Ummmm, I've been busy…”  Sound familiar?)  So here’s what you have to do, Let her disappear.  As tough as it is, it’s really your only recourse.  Do anything else and you’ll either be the dumb guy who bought into her excuses or you’ll come off looking like a desperado, or both.  (Trust me, I’ve been both and it ain’t pretty.)
What do you do if (and when) she suddenly reappears?  Every good magic trick ends with the rabbit or the girl in the box rematerializing, doesn't it?  Very much like these girl who disappear, as well.  It’s been my experience that unless you act like a complete nut job or it was totally 100% about sex in her mind, they very often show up again.  One day you’ll just be sitting there, minding your own business (and very nearly over her) and poof!  There she is!  Maybe you’ll get a text (probably wouldn't be anything as blatant as a call) or an FB friend request (yeah, you a-holes know you who are).  You’re going to have to seriously ask yourself if it’s worth it to let her back in.  Chances are it’s not.  If she can disappear once, what’s to stop her from disappearing again?
Since I embarked on this journey, I made a vow that I would always try to see the long term impact of my decisions.  I didn’t want to do things I would later regret.  I haven’t been perfect in this (hardly), but I’ve learned a lot of lessons and grown a lot, as well.  Here’s the deal, if you take things slowly, keep your wits about you, and make her show you who she is before falling for her (or sleeping with her), there’s a much greater chance she will keep coming after you.

Sunday, June 12, 2011

My blood type

O Blood Type : Social, Active, Curious

People with blood type O are kind and place great emphasis on peace. They have bright personalities and a talent to lead others. Passion and honesty are among their greatest traits. Type O's make friends easily wherever they go and have great social skills. While they are curious about many thing, they get bored just as easily.  To others, they seem like cool and controlled, but they also make big mistakes because of their careless characteristics.  

Best traits: ambitious, athletic, confident.

World straits: arrogant, vain, careless.

Tuesday, June 7, 2011


There are people who deserve you and people who don’t.  If you have someone in your life who takes you for granted or doesn’t give you the respect that you deserve, leave them in the past where they belong.  Surround yourself with people who challenge your mind and bring out the best in you.  As for the ones who only exist to bring you down or cheapen your potential, let them find people who are better-suited to their own qualities and principles.  Hold yourself to the highest standard possible.  People who don’t measure up don’t deserve your time.  People who can’t see past their own cowardice or their own arrogance don’t deserve your time.  Anyone who doesn’t treat you the way you treat yourself doesn’t deserve your time.  And if you are treating yourself in a way that gives people permission to take advantage of you, start showing yourself the exact same respect that you should be demanding of everyone else.  You’re really worth more than you give yourself credit for.  It’s time that you start making sure people recognize that.

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Blinded by LOVE - Time to open up the history book of my love life.

Some call it love. Some call it fate. And some call it bad luck. I happen to be the guy with the bad luck when it comes to dating. Maybe it's my personality I should blame?! Maybe I was born to be love-frustrated? I'm the type of guy who pours 100% of my heart into every aspect of my life. Whether I'm creating a new cookie recipe for my friends to try, brainstorming some crazy event to impact the lives of others, or taking a chance on love and letting down the protective wall around my heart, I stay true to myself and always give it my all.

I’ll admit that my passion for life is a bit peculiar.  It was pointed out by an ex girlfriend, who we will refer to as The Rebound, that I have little hunger for ........... , but a huge appetite for experiences. I love LOVE!  I love the energy of a new relationship.  The development of the story which you might someday share with your future children.  The butterflies you get in your stomach when you see her name popup on the caller id.  The rush of blood in your body when she kisses you after not seeing you for a few hours.  The softness of her lips when they first touch yours.  The smell of her perfume as she walks next to you.    The hours of pointless conversation where you’re just mesmerized by the sound of her voice. The moments when your eyes meet and everything in the world seems to disappear. The hope that she just might be The One.

Each time, it always seems just right, but it hasn’t worked out to stand the test of time or personal growth.  In order to really understand my frustration with “love” or “bad love luck” (bll), we need to open up the history book of my love life.  

Yes, but does she RESPECT you?

It's no big deal if a girl wants to sleep with you.  It's no challenge for most men to put on some hoochie-garb and find a willing accomplice for the evening.  Let's face it - this takes minimal work and effort.  Which may be why his initial level of physical attraction doesn't necessarily determine the strength of her desire to have a relationship with you.  And if you think you're gonna get a girl to like you - to want to be with you for the long-term - just becauses he finds you desirable,...well, think again.
We all know that women are visual creatures.  They're attracted to what they SEE.  And most women SEE a lot that attracts them.  But what sets you apart, what determines if she views you as a passing thing or as something serious, is based on who you are on the inside.  And ultimately, whether or not he RESPECTS you.  Respect.  It all boils down to respect.
Not too long ago, I heard a great quote:  You can't demand respect, you command it.  Love that!  It's so true, isn't it?  So if you are feeling disrespected; if your relationships seem to fizzle rather than sizzle; or if you are having problems sustaining women's interest, read on.  This one is for you.

1.  Respect yourself - If you don't respect yourself (your thoughts, your dreams, your body, etc), how can you expect anyone else to?  No woman will respect a man who doesn't respect herself.  Period.  End of story.  So how do you respect yourself?  By liking yourself.  By knowing who you are and being true to that.  By having boundaries that you allow no woman (or man) to cross.  A man who respects himself doesn't chase after women in order to gain approval.  He doesn't need someone else's acceptance in order to feel good about himself.  He believes in himself and holds out for relationships with people who also believe in him.  And he doesn't settle for relationships where he's treated badly.  Ever.

2.  Assert yourself - I don't believe in being a boobs buster.  That's gross.  And very few women like it when a man tries to push them around.  You aren't the boss of her.  But you most certainly are the boss of yourself.  You determine the course of your life.  No one else!  And you absolutely have control over charting your direction.  Women respect men who have their own goals and opinions.  Adopting a "whatever you want, honey" attitude may appeal to her at first.  But watch how quickly boredom will set in.  If you don't like how you are being treated, stick up for yourself.  If you want something you're not getting, be direct and tell her.  Don't keep your mouth shut and become resentful.  And certainly don't stomp your feet or pout like a little boy.  Women respect men who know what they want and have the strength to get it.

3.  Maintain yourself - One of the fastest ways she'll lose respect is if you give up everything important to you for her.  When you cease to be the center of your own life and instead orbit around her, she won't see you as an independent man.  She'll see you as a clingy child.  Why?  Two reasons.  First, most women are acutely aware they are no superhero.  She knows she's not perfect and when you act like she's your end all-be all, she can't help but wonder what's wrong with you.  She wants you to think she's great and super neato and all that.  But making her the center of your universe puts way too much pressure on her.  Second, once we abandon everything for a woman it's not too long before we begin demanding reciprocity.  "I don't go to bars with my boyfriends.  Why do you still go out with the girls?"  "You're more important than my work.  Why don't you make me more of a priority?"  Sound familiar?  The fuller your life and the more content you are, the more she'll respect you.

4.  Control yourself - One of the fundamental problems with relationships is that most women believe that 99.9% of men are (at least a little bit) crazy.  We may get irritated by this (after all, it's THEM who make us crazy, right?), but if we look at this objectively, don't we give them just a bit of ammo?  C'mon!  Admit it!  Haven't we all allowed a girl (at one time or another) to make us go somewhat...psycho?  (Seriously, if you never have you deserve some sort of medal.)  Here's the deal:  Women want men who are in control of their emotions.  Why?  Because they have no clue how to handle them.  For reals.  Our emotional outbursts scare them.  When you fly off the handle, cry, and scream, they just don't get it.  They think your response - to whatever the provocation - is totally out of proportion and completely unreasonable.  The more frequent your hissy fits, the more she'll lose respect for you.  Bottom line.  So, as hard as it may be, try to keep the drama to a minimum.  If she's habitually upsetting you to the point you are having trouble controlling your emotions, you should probably assess whether or not she's the girl for you.

5.  Save yourself - I'm not a preacher of abstinence.  Maybe in a "perfect" world, we'd all be virgins when our first love found our glass slipper and proposed on bended knee.  And then we'd get married and go on to be deliriously happy ever after.  Yeah, riiiiight.  Life ain't no fairy tale.  And, for most of us, sex is integral to our relationships.  But here's the deal when it comes to sex and respect:  The VAST MAJORITY of the time, the faster you have sex with her, the faster she'll lose respect for you.  Sleep with her on the first date?  Congrats.  More than likely you've just committed relationship suicide.  Listen up.  She's a girl.  She wants to sleep with you.  Duh!  Women learn to respect and begin to really fall for a man in the time BEFORE the relationship is consummated.  So don't sell that time short.  And if she's not showing respect before you sleep with her, she's certainly not going to treat you with it afterwards.
When a woman truly feels respect for a man, that's when her attraction goes through the roof.  And it's the kind of attraction that lasts.  Unlike physical attraction, which is fleeting, emotional attraction has staying power.  Just like many of our relationship issues, I believe it all goes back to being a "goddess;" that confident creature who is in control of himself and successful in his relationships.

Sunday, April 10, 2011

Listening Skills

You probably spend more time using your listening skills than any other kind of skill. Like other skills, listening takes practice.

What does it mean to really listen?
    Real listening is an active process that has three basic steps.
  1. Hearing. Hearing just means listening enough to catch what the speaker is saying. For example, say you were listening to a report on zebras, and the speaker mentioned that no two are alike. If you can repeat the fact, then you have heard what has been said.
  2. Understanding. The next part of listening happens when you take what you have heard and understand it in your own way. Let's go back to that report on zebras. When you hear that no two are alike, think about what that might mean. You might think, "Maybe this means that the pattern of stripes is different for each zebra."
  3. Judging. After you are sure you understand what the speaker has said, think about whether it makes sense. Do you believe what you have heard? You might think, "How could the stripes to be different for every zebra? But then again, the fingerprints are different for every person. I think this seems believable."

Tips for being a good listener
  1. Give your full attention on the person who is speaking. Don't look out the window or at what else is going on in the room.
  2. Make sure your mind is focused, too. It can be easy to let your mind wander if you think you know what the person is going to say next, but you might be wrong! If you feel your mind wandering, change the position of your body and try to concentrate on the speaker's words.
  3. Let the speaker finish before you begin to talk. Speakers appreciate having the chance to say everything they would like to say without being interrupted. When you interrupt, it looks like you aren't listening, even if you really are.
  4. Let yourself finish listening before you begin to speak! You can't really listen if you are busy thinking about what you want say next.
  5. Listen for main ideas. The main ideas are the most important points the speaker wants to get across. They may be mentioned at the start or end of a talk, and repeated a number of times. Pay special attention to statements that begin with phrases such as "My point is..." or "The thing to remember is..."
  6. Ask questions. If you are not sure you understand what the speaker has said, just ask. It is a good idea to repeat in your own words what the speaker said so that you can be sure your understanding is correct. For example, you might say, "When you said that no two zebras are alike, did you mean that the stripes are different on each one?"
  7. Give feedback. Sit up straight and look directly at the speaker. Now and then, nod to show that you understand. At appropriate points you may also smile, frown, laugh, or be silent. These are all ways to let the speaker know that you are really listening. Remember, you listen with your face as well as your ears!

Friday, April 1, 2011

45 Rules for Life

There are some really good instructions, rules, and/or words of wisdom in this list. You may not agree with all of these but it's worth reading.
1 – Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
2 – Memorize your favorite poem.
3 – Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
4 – When you say, “I love you,” mean it.
5 – When you say, “I’m sorry,” look the person in the eye.
6 – Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
7 – Believe in love at first sight.
8 – Never laugh at anyone’s dreams.
9 – Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.
10 – In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
11 – Don’t judge people by their relatives.
12 – Talk slow but think quick.
13 – When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile, and ask, “Why do you want to know?”
14 – Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
15 – Call your mom.
16 – Say “bless you” when you hear someone sneeze.
17 – When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
18 – Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.
19 – Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
20 – When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
21 – Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
22 – Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, conversational skills will be as important as any other.
23 – Spend some time alone.
24 – Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
25 – Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
26 – Read more books and watch less TV.
27 – Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll get to enjoy it a second time.
28 – Trust in God but lock your car.
29 – A loving atmosphere in your home is so important. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.
30 – In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
31 – Read between the lines.
32 – Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
33 – Be gentle with the earth.
34 – Pray. There’s immeasurable power in it.
35 – Never interrupt when you are being flattered.
36 – Mind your own business.
37 – Don’t trust a person who doesn’t close his/her eyes when you kiss him/her.
38 – Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
39 – If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth’s greatest satisfaction.
40 – Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.
41 – Learn the rules then break some.
42 – Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.
43 – Judge your success by what you had to give in order to get it.
44 – Remember that your character is your destiny.
45 – Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

Friday, February 25, 2011

Love and Life

Sometimes in our relentless effort to find the person we love, we fail to recognize and appreciate the people who love us. We miss out on so many beautiful things simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our own selfish concerns.
Go for the man/woman of deeds and not for the man/woman of words, for you will find rewarding happiness, not with the man/woman you love but with the man/woman who loves you more.
The best lovers are those capable of loving from a distance far enough to allow the person to grow but never too far to feel the love within your being.
To let go of someone doesn’t mean you have to stop loving; it only means that you allow that person to find his/her own happiness without expecting him/her to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but is also setting yourself free from all the bitterness, hatred, and anger that you keep in your heart. Do not let the bitterness take away your strength and weaken your faith, and never allow pain to dishearten you; but rather let yourself grow with wisdom in bearing it.
You may find peace in loving someone from a distance not expecting something in return. But be careful, for this can sustain life but can never give enough room for us to grow. We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past, but real peace and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today.
There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and we just find ourselves so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon becomes a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than just a friendship. We start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer, but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves. You don’t have to forget someone you love. What you need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself. Believe me, you would be better off giving that dedication and love to someone more deserving.
Don’t let your heart run your life, be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well.Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow. If you lose love, that doesn’t mean you failed in love.
Cry if you have to, but make sure that tears wash away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you. Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.
There are two ways to live your life: One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.There is no mistake so painful that love cannot forgive, no past so bitter that love cannot accept, and no love so little that we cannot start all over with.

Thursday, February 24, 2011

What I've Learned

I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved.
The rest is up to them.
I’ve learned that no matter how much I care,
some people just don’t care back.
I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust
and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned that it’s not what you have in your life
but who you have in your life that counts.
I’ve learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes.
After that, you’d better know something.
I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself
to the best others can do,
but to the best you can do.
I’ve learned that it’s not what happens to people,
It’s what they do about it.
I’ve learned that no matter how thin you slide it,
there are always two sides.
I’ve learned that you should always have loved ones with loving words.
It may be the last time you’ll see them.
I’ve learned that you can keep going
long after you think you can’t.
I’ve learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done
When it needs to be done,
regardless of the consequences.
I’ve learned that there are people who love you dearly,
but just don’t know how to show it.
I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry,
but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to
doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.
I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is,
they’re going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.
I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken,
the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible for who we become.
I’ve learned that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other.
And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.
I’ve learned that sometimes you have to put the individual
ahead of their actions.
I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing
and see something totally different.
I’ve learned that no matter the consequences,
those who are honest with themselves go farther in life.
I’ve learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours
by people who don’t even know you.
I’ve learned that even when you think you have no more to give,
when a friend cries out to you,
you will find the strength to help.
I’ve learned that writing,
as well as talking,
can ease emotional pains.
I’ve learned that the people you care most about in life
are taken from you too soon.
I’ve learned that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice
and not hurting people’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.
I’ve learned to love
and be loved.
I’ve learned…

Sunday, February 20, 2011

Lover Advice For Each Of Us

No matter what your love life is like I think these are some great things to remember.
To those who are…. single
Love is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes you. But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expect it. Love can make you happy but often it hurts, but love’s only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it. So take your time and choose the best.
To those who are…. no so single/in a relationship
Love isn’t about becoming somebody else’s “perfect person”. It’s about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.
To those who are…. playboy/girl type
Never say “I love you” if you don’t care. Never talk about feelings if they aren’t there. Never touch a life if you mean to break a heart. Never look in the eye when all you do is lie. The cruelest thing a guy can do to a girl is to let her fall in love when he doesn’t intend to catch her fall and vice versa…
To those who are…. married
 Love is not about “it’s your fault”, but it’s about “I’m sorry”. Not about “where are you”, but “I’m right here”. Not “how could you” but “I understand”. Not “I wish you were here” but “I’m thankful you are”.
To those who are…. engaged
The true measure of compatibility is not the years spent together but how good you are for each other.
To those who are…. heartbroken
Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut as deep as you allow them to go. The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks, but to learn from them.
To those who are…. naive
How to be in love: Fall but don’t stumble, be consistent but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, and get hurt but never keep the pain.
To those who are…. possessive
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else, but it’s more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.
To those who are…. afraid to confess
Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you love has no idea how you feel.
To those who are…. still holding on
 A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fall in love, only to find out in the end it was never meant to be and that you have wasted years on someone who wasn’t worth it. If he/she isn’t worth it now, he/she’s not going to be worth it a year or 10 years from now. Let go.

Thursday, February 3, 2011

How do you know if a guy's really ready to commit

1) Don't Ever Convince: You don't ever be the one who is "carrying" the relationship or trying to convince him to want something else/more with you. Doing this is one of the most dangerous TRAPS women fall into with men and relationships. If you avoid ever being the one who's trying to lead and move things towards a real commitment, then you'll never have to guess if the man in your life is genuinely interested, ready and personally devoted and inspired.
2) Give Him His Freedom/Make Sure It's His Idea Too: You tell him what you want, but you don't demand it from him. A man can't and won't commit for the long term just because a woman gave him an ultimatum. It also has to be HIS IDEA. By letting a man know that you want/expect a committed relationship if you're going to spend time and really open up and share yourself with a man, but that he has the FREEDOM to say and feel how he really feels... you leave space for a man to make his own choice and commit himself to you. This is the important process of a man becoming DEVOTED to a woman, and if you don't leave space to know how he feels and for him to come towards you and ask for and want a commitment, he won't become devoted to you in the same lasting and bonded way.
3) You Listen to Him: A man will generally let you know if he wants to be with just you by his actions, and how often he wants to spend time with you. If he wants to spend most of his free time with you, and looks to make plans with you 3-4 times a week or more, he's probably thinking "commitment" with you. But too many women spend time with a man Physically and Socially 2 or less times a week and think that this time and intimacy means that he must want more. Most men could do on "casually" dating a woman, or several women, for months at a time and never spend more than 1 night or so a week with them, and never think about or want a more serious relationship to come of it.
Also, lots of women don't listen to what a man has said about what he wants and where he's at in his love life. If a man said to you when you started dating "I'm not really looking for a relationship right now", but you're spending all your time together, it doesn't mean that he's changed his mind and wants a long-term commitment or marriage now.

Five signs your date is into you and five signs he isn't.

 He's into you if....
1. He closes the distance: “First and foremost, moving in closer indicates a desire for more intimate contact,” Hartley says. So if a guy you’re talking to at a party inches a little closer as you talk, or your date slides into the same side of the booth as you, you know he wants to get to know you better—and not as a friend.
2. He speaks softly
When a man talks in a quieter voice, it’s an excellent sign, Hartley explains. “He’s indicating that what he’s saying is for your ears only,” he says. “If he’s telling you something private or secret, it’s a good thing—guys don’t do that to women they’re not into.” If you want to let that soft-talker know you feel the same way, respond in kind, which should quickly turn those sparks into an all-out fire. Caveat: If you’re in a loud bar or restaurant, where you have to shout to be heard, you can’t tell anything by his decibel level. So wait until you’re walking or driving home to see whether he’s turned the volume down.
3. He rounds his posture
Hypermasculine body language (think: swaggering walk, standing tall with shoulders back and chin up, etc.) serves to attract women from a distance. But when a guy is talking close-up with a woman he likes, he will soften, or “round” his body language, Hartley notes. If your guy’s squared shoulders cave in when he’s chatting with you, he’s indicating that he feels comfortable and secure in your presence.
4. He talks slowwwly
Like birds in a mating dance, men typically talk more slowly and softly when they are attracted to someone, Hartley explains. Of course, if he knocked back a few gigante lattes on a first date, he may be too wired (and nervous) to sound like Barry White, but give it time: If his speech starts to make you feel sleepy, he’s a goner.
5. He can’t take his eyes off you (in a good way)
So his eyes are locked on yours? As long as it isn’t a psycho stare, but rather a lingering, heavy-lidded, “Wow, you’re amazing” gaze, that guy is digging you big-time, Harley says. 
He's isn’t into you
1. He’s four feet away
If his motto may as well be The Police’s “Don’t Stand So Close to Me”, he’s not feelin’ you romantically, Hartley says. How do you define “distance”? “If he remains four feet or more away from you, it is a clear signal that his heart’s not in it,” says Hartley.
2. He stands at an oblique angle facing you
“Most men do not realize that when talking to another man, we stand at oblique angles, with one shoulder facing the other’s face, yet when we talk to women — especially ones we’re interested in romantically — we stand face-to-face with them,” Hartley says. If your guy’s shoulder is pointing in the direction of your face during conversation, he’s subconsciously showing disinterest or is trying to turn you off, Hartley explains.
3. He sounds like that guy in accounting
If your date is talking to you like you’re someone at the office — meaning the pace is quick and the level of his voice is rather strong — “he’s probably just trying to keep it to friend level,” Hartley says. With time, you might notice a change — after all, he just might want to keep it “professional” on the first date or two while he gets to know you — but if it remains this way after a few dates, cut your losses.
4. He stares at your mouth
When a guy focuses on your lips, what he’s really trying to do is avoid eye contact, Hartley explains. “If he’s avoiding eye contact, you can pretty safely assume he’s not into you,” he asserts. If your date fixes his gaze below your face, he’s probably interested in you, but perhaps not for a long-term relationship, if you know what we mean…
5. He’s out of sync with your body language
When a guy is romantically interested in you, he will mimic your body language, so if he doesn’t copy you, gesture for gesture, odds are he isn’t smitten, Hartley says. To test the waters, try leaning in closer to your date, using your hands to emphasize what you’re saying. If your guy does the same, it’s a great sign. But if he keeps his hands still, pulls away or takes a step backwards, he may be unavailable or just plain not interested.

Wise Words About Love

Have you ever wondered which hurts the most: saying something and wishing you hadn't or saying nothing and wishing you had? I guess the most important things are the hardest to say. Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them. If you do they might break your heart... but if you don't you might break theirs.
Have you ever wanted to love someone with everything you had, but that person was too afraid to let you? Too many of us stay walled up because we are too afraid to care too much... for fear that the other person does not care as much, or at all.
Have you ever denied your feelings for someone because your fear of rejection was too hard to handle? We tell lies when we are afraid...afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie... the thing we fear grows stronger.
Life is all about risks and it requires you to jump. Don't be a person who has to look back and wonder what they would have, or could have had. No one waits forever...
What would you do…?
What would you do if every time you wanted someone they would never be there?
What would you do if you best friend died tomorrow and you never got the chance to tell them how you felt?
What would you do if you loved someone more than ever and you couldn't have them?
What would you do if every time you fell in love you had to say good-bye?
When you love someone say it. Say it loud. Say it right away, or the moment just passes you by and you may never get the chance again.
People live, but people die.

Something Every Woman Should Know About Man

  • If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.  If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
  • Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
  • Allow your intuition to save you from heartache.
  • Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be
  • Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
  • If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
  • Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
  • Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
  • The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
  • If something bothers you, speak up.
  • You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
  • Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or has a better job.
  • Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
  • Never let a man define who you are.
  • Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
  • A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
  • All men are NOT dogs.
  • You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is a two way street.
  • You need time to heal between relationships... There is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
  • You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
  • A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary... Not supplementary.
  • Dating is fun... Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
  • When a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
  • Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Share this with other women and men just so they know... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her/his choices, and another woman prepare, and a man aware.

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

15 Signs He's Not Into You Ladies

I would like to share with it you so that maybe one of you will avoid wasting your time with a guy who isn't worth your time.
1. He's just not that into you if he's not asking you out.
If a man is excited about a woman, he can’t stop himself— he wants more. If he’s attracted to her, he’s going to want to take it further. If he’s not making a move, it’s not because he is ‘scared’. The only thing he is scared of is how not attracted to you he is.

2. He’s just not that into you if he’s not calling you.
He says he didn't have a moment in his busy day to call. Rubbish! The real reason is that you are not on his mind. If a man leads you to expect he will call and then doesn't follow through on such a little thing, he will never follow through on big things. Be aware he is okay with the idea he is disappointing you.

3. He communicates via TEXT and email.
By doing so, he avoids the “getting to know you” conversations. He really isn't interested in moving things forward. He wants the down and dirty. When can he see you? If you have already had sex, his TEXT is to set up his next booty call. He usually steers the conversation towards telling you how sexy you are and how he can’t wait to see you again. DUH!

4. He warns you that he isn't relationship material.
Men usually say what they mean. He is telling you that he is not relationship material-at least with you-believe him! You might be the exception to the rule, but more than likely, you are not. He is probably going to have sex with you and dump you when things get too complicated (you want more from him).

5. He puts little planning into your date.
He tells you that he wants to hang out and watch a movie or something. “Something” means having sex in case you haven’t figured that out by now. If you always go to the restaurant, because it is his favorite, he isn't trying to please you. More than likely, he goes to different restaurants with different women. A guy that is really into you will plan a date. Even if the date doesn't cost him a dime, he will plan.

6. He makes lots of empty promises.
He keeps talking as if you have a future, but he takes little or no action. He talks about having a future together or all the fun things you will soon, but he doesn't plan a date! Some men promise the moon, sun and stars, but deliver…nothing! He really isn't that into you. Think about this. If he can’t come up with a few things that make you swoon despite his pocketbook, he isn't that into you.

7. He makes last minute plans to see you.
You are just so glad he calls that you don’t realize that that he is definitely not that into you or he thinks that you have no life and would be readily available at his beck and call. Either way, if you accept, you aren't scoring any points. You were probably one of the women in his “little black book” and not his first call.

8. He avoids the “getting-to-know you” conversations!
He really doesn't want to get to know you better. He wants to know what he needs to know to get you into bed. If he really wants to get to know you better, he is asking questions about you, your life and what you want. If not, he is looking for the easiest, quickest booty call. He will flatter you! He will tell you how amazing you are! But he doesn't really know anything about you. If you fall for this, don’t expect a call anytime soon. He will call you again when he is horny.

9. He is pushy about getting physical.
He tries to move things forward beyond the “make out” session with minimal clothing. If you resist, he makes you feel bad that you aren't that into him. He says that he just wants to cuddle, but he is really trying to get more. (Just so you know, most men don’t really like cuddling. They do it because it gets them sex!) He is kissing and holding you, but in the process trying to take your blouse and pants off, wants sex. If he gets upset or offended when you put the kibosh on moving forward, he isn't that into you. If someone really likes you, he is willing to wait until you are ready to move things forward.

10. You initiate and he doesn't follow through.
If you're really into a guy and you think he may be shy, try initiating a conversation, phone call or texting session. If you start the conversation, he'll want to continue it. However, if he doesn't return your calls or texts or tries to end the conversation quickly, he may not be into you.

11. His actions don't match his words.
If he says he'll call you and then you don't hear from him or if you suggest meeting up and he is "too busy," he probably isn't interested.

12. If you have been dating for a month or more and have never met his friends, he isn't that into you.
When men think they have found a great catch, he want to show her off. If you don’t get an invitation to meet his friends, you aren't that girl. He wants to see you alone but not integrate you into his life, this is not a good sign. If a man is really into you, he wants all his friends to see the woman he is dating. If this doesn't happen, you are not the woman he wants to be with long term.

13. He says he just wants to be friends.
He means it. If you offer up sex as part of the package, he is willing to be friends with benefits. He isn't stupid if you are! If you offer to satisfy him sexually, why not. If you think being friends with benefits will lead to more, it won’t. He isn't into you in almost every case. When he finds someone who rocks his world, you are history.

14. He's not that into you if he's still hooking up with other women.
Or you even catch him at it, he’s not ready to settle down with you. Even if he still maintains inappropriate contact with exes or even other women friends he’s not ready to invest time in you or ready to have any kind of future. He’s just not worth the time if he’s out looking for someone else. Save yourself the heartache and move on. You’ll find someone who will be so thankful for you.

15. He’s just not that into you if he doesn't want to marry you.
Every man you have dated who says he doesn't want to get married or doesn’t believe in marriage, or has ‘issues’ with marriage, will, rest assured, someday be married. It just will not be to you.